LGBTQ safety in Bangor?

Submitted by _jenni4 t3_11h4vni in Maine

Hey, I know Portland is all kinds of safe and has a great queer culture. But I often pass through Bangor on my way to points north -- what's the vibe there?

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yupuhoh t1_jas151x wrote

Really? I'd worry more about a meth head stealing your cat converter

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[deleted] t1_jas1mf1 wrote

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yupuhoh t1_jasbfrl wrote

Absolutely. Opiates are way too expensive. Turned everyone to meth and heroin

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yupuhoh t1_jasd2l5 wrote

I'm aware it's in the same class. But most are referring to pills when they say opiates.

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yupuhoh t1_jasn7fy wrote

So you can correct me by saying heroin is opiates and pills are opiates but I'm in the wrong by differentiating between pills and heroin?

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yupuhoh t1_jasp94p wrote

Being mean? Lol. I didn't think that. Just thought you were an ass and back tracked on your talk because I separated pills from heroin and you called me on it. Then you separated pills from heroin and I called you on it. But if you think you were being mean to me for some reason Im sorry I gave you that impression. Anytime you need a hug just lmk and I'm there for ya

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yupuhoh t1_jasrkyw wrote

You said "most people are referring to pills when they say pills" that's you separating pills form heroin. Which like you said is an opiate. As are the pills people do. Percs which have lead to widespread heroin use because the price of them became too high.

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[deleted] t1_jarz3au wrote

The Socialist Rifle Association has a pretty robust presence there, so there will be transfolk and catgirls with guns.

Edit: people think I’m joking, I’m not joking.

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Commercial-Amount344 t1_jat4lkv wrote

Is the SRA really present in Maine? I have been curious about this mostly cause its the only political philosophy I can identify with these days.

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[deleted] t1_jat5bic wrote

They post to this subreddit, you can find their twitter/Instagram on google. I'm not personally involved in the organization but they look very active.

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_jenni4 OP t1_jas4qto wrote

Awesome

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[deleted] t1_jas5k25 wrote

The best way to ensure your safety in the unfortunate political landscape we live in is having the tools to protect yourself and others 👍

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_jenni4 OP t1_jarug8c wrote

There's a long way from "no-one cares" to "there's an active community, and you'll see a lot of other trans people around"

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Sufficient_Risk1684 t1_jas1enf wrote

Sure. But your title was safety. No one caring is perfectly safe. You didn't ask will I be able to assume genders and label people as being trans based on the way they look. Sounds like people won't be safe from your assumptions about them.

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[deleted] t1_jas2izi wrote

How would you know they’re trans just by seeing them? Honest question, I have a couple of trans friends who hate it when people do that.

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_jenni4 OP t1_jas88bs wrote

Ya don't, except when people are out and proud with pins etc. As one friend put it, "just asking bc you're wearing the uniform."

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[deleted] t1_jas9leq wrote

It’s not like I study the trans community, but people wearing pins isn’t necessarily an indication of trans representation in Maine. One of the reasons most of the queer bars are closing is that people aren’t as segregated. It’s just Maine culture— you could have a large queer community but you’re just as likely to find them at the weekly boardgame meeting, bowling club, or shooting range. Mainers are pretty integrated in this state, there are so few people that they don’t tend to silo themselves.

Portland is large enough that it’s the exception to the rule.

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runner64 t1_jatg471 wrote

There’s a semi-active community and you will see other trans/queer people around.

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Nadia_Claire_ t1_jas2ohp wrote

Totally safe I would say but not nearly as open with queer culture as Portland. As other people have said I have not seen any groups, specific hangout places or anything like that.

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dr0wningggg t1_jas0yp5 wrote

there’s plenty of gay people here in bangor, but i’m not aware of any groups/clubs/etc. my boyfriend and i live near bangor and own a maine discord server if you’re interested. there’s a lot of lgbt folks in there

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[deleted] t1_jat75ao wrote

Lots of people shooting up in Portland, needles on the ground everywhere. Glad I don't live there. Have to go there sometimes for work.

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novatom1960 t1_jat80ys wrote

I lived in the area back in the mid 80’s when Charlie Howard was murdered, that had a big impact. I haven’t lived there in 35 years but I assume things have come a long ways since then.

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planningcalendar t1_jaxfkj9 wrote

Hasn't read "It." I'm just being a jerk. I have no idea.

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Some-Concentrate-853 t1_jatuvsd wrote

Currently in world history you guys should not make it to obvious which group you support.

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_jenni4 OP t1_jatyv1o wrote

I'm not sure what you mean by that?

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DonkeyKongsVet t1_jau8ov5 wrote

A rainbow crosswalk and that's about it.

Get to the right water cooler and you can hear the stigma and hate all day.

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fishing2256 t1_jas1wz2 wrote

The only people that care about who you fuck or what you call yourself are the leftists, this is not the Middleast.

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[deleted] t1_jas3tcy wrote

Not true, there are plenty of people who openly discuss wanting to harm/kill trans people and calling them “groomers.” I envy your innocence.

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fishing2256 t1_jasp8al wrote

yes plenty of those people on the internet sadly

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Guygan t1_jascsky wrote

> The only people that care about who you fuck or what you call yourself are the leftists

I assume you live under a rock.

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_jenni4 OP t1_jas4okx wrote

Based on the number of times I've left the bathroom and said hi to a manager or security guard, just in Maine, this is patently untrue

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Sufficient_Risk1684 t1_jascmny wrote

Sure, it's fear. Though like a lot of fears it seems to be misplaced. If you read actual reports of trans related violence victims the vast majority of them appear to be domestic violence, or random. ( Stabbing in a fight at a party, killed in street robbery etc) In various lists I don't see a single report alleging any random violent trans related hate crime in the US last year. Certainly not any in Maine....

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runner64 t1_jatgvs9 wrote

Your various lists are weird to exclude the shooting at Club Q.

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Sufficient_Risk1684 t1_jauthm2 wrote

That one gets left out as it was a nonbinary person who used they them pronouns so it's really hard to argue as a hate crime.

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runner64 t1_jav72fw wrote

The nonbinary person who started using they/them pronouns about five minutes before they were about to be charged with a hate crime? Very easy to argue actually.

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