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coffee-and-aspirin t1_j29rkw5 wrote

Pros: not having a ton of people means it's not as loud and crowded. Low traffic, and places like Portland have high enough population for it to feel city like without it being so God damn packed all the time. I like that I can get a sense of city life ND nature without having to travel too far.

Cons: less people means less opportunities. We just have less access to things, and it often feels like your options are stay here and work a trade/call center gig, or move out and find opportunity elsewhere. Less deversity means less variety, so things can get really boring. I often feel like I need to leave the state just to get a breath of something else every once in a while. Maine can get lonely. Finding community sometimes feels impossible here, and so the isolation can get to you. As an LGBTQ individual, I feel like there are parts of the state I'm simply not welcome. Basically no public transportation.

Honestly. I listed a lot of cons so I feel the need to say that I love Maine. I was born and raised here and I don't think I'll leave any time soon, but there are a lot of things I think the state needs to work on, but it feels like it's getting better, and more people are moving here so I feel hopeful

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LockedOutOfElfland OP t1_j2ajyxd wrote

If you're single, how do you find LGBTQ+ dating or hookup culture in more liberal parts of the state?

The areas I visited seemed very open-minded, but I have to imagine finding a partner (either for a night or for life) is difficult regardless of orientation or gender in Maine. Is that assessment correct?

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coffee-and-aspirin t1_j2alvq4 wrote

Dating apps suck, but I imagine it's like that for anyone. I am not single, but finding someone wasnt easy. I live in one of the larger towns in the state, so it wasn't completely hopeless, and it took a while, but I did find some level of community, but I had to move to a more urban area and go on a lot of failed dates to get to where I am now

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ItsMissiBeaches t1_j2bst65 wrote

Dating in this state is horrible.

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LockedOutOfElfland OP t1_j2bsz4z wrote

I wondered about that when I was there. At the very least do Bar Harbor, Stonington etc. residents stand a good chance of finding a hookup or week long fling with the summer tourists via dating apps?

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ItsMissiBeaches t1_j2bv5g4 wrote

I live in a lake region inland where our population at least triples in the summer. Personally I stay away from dating tourists, but I'm 39 and not interested in flings. Most people my age left for college and never came back. Those who did return brought their young families. I love my quiet rural life, but I fully know I'd have to leave to find the kind of partner I want.

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