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DidDunMegasploded t1_j14cxyx wrote

Reply to comment by Fun-Gap4015 in Some classy parking last night at OTTO in Auburn. No visible handicap tags whatsoever. Scum by coastalgirl207

Racists aren't really likely to stop being racist. Same goes for ableists and sexists. That's like having hope that anti-vaxxers will see that vaccines save lives, and I have enough experience with them to state the contrary--just like I have enough experience dealing with ableists to say that they aren't going to magically turn good and start treating disabled people with respect. The reality is that many will not. Some do, but it's a small margin--many don't.

If you want to keep living with the delusional belief that everyone who's ableist will turn good with a few magic words and a positive attitude, be my guest. But I'm a realist. I know the gravity of the situation with ableists. Doesn't matter whether you go cupcakes and rainbows or full Hulk. They just will not change.

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Fun-Gap4015 t1_j150jdr wrote

You wanna know how I can tell you're immature?

You're so concerned with wtf everyone else is doing and not your own actions as if you're infallible. It means you don't self reflect. You see the world as black and white, us vs them, it is or it isn't.

You cannot control what anyone else does no matter how much you want. You can only control your own reactions. You will understand this concept better when you finally process the trauma that caused you to lose faith in yourself.

Some people just aren't ready. One day you will be. And hopefully you'll have the courage to seek forgiveness from those closest to you.

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DidDunMegasploded t1_j15rwpl wrote

Why are you assuming I went through some kind of trauma where I lost faith in myself? You call me out for assuming but yet you assume too. Now that is being immature--mature adults aren't so blatantly hypocritical. Again, pick a lane or I will do it for you.

Ableism, and all the other "isms", will not be solved by reflecting on your own actions. It is a real issue that can't be solved by what you are feeling and what you are doing, nor can it be solved by forgiving the offenders. If I myself were ableist, then your words would hold merit. But I'm not--other people are.

You cannot keep being blind to how shitty the world is. You must be an adult and face the music. But I suppose my warning will fall flat since I realize something now: you are far beyond help and far beyond saving. I see now that you are not disabled yourself, and thus, you do not know the gravity nor the offense of what this guy does--you are part of the breed of people who kick us down and make life for us harder than it has to be. And making you disabled is a cruel feat. So, if you're normal and you refuse to see how this is bad, there is nothing I can do.

You cannot help someone that does not want to help themselves. And whoo boy, does that old family adage apply to you. I hope someday you will work with disabled people instead of trying to preach wisdom to them that, while helpful for some, is not helpful in this case.

Have fun, don't be ableist, and please, change your mentality. For the good of you and for the good of us disabled folks.

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Fun-Gap4015 t1_j151212 wrote

There's nothing wrong with you. You're just heart broken. You're worthy of love. Get over yourself.

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