> Is this relativity common for others, or am I just being overly dickish about it?

It’s way too common.

I travel a two-lane road very often between 8-10pm and in my 4 mile trip i usually count half a dozen cars with no lights on and don’t know it because their DRL make them think lights are on.

Why don’t people put lights on auto? I turned my lights to auto when I bought the car and haven’t touched the switch since.