I just received the last deskmats for this year. Happy holidays to all of you.Submitted by cheswickFS t3_zubns6 in MechanicalKeyboards
LuisFontinelles t1_j1kxgxi wrote
Reply to comment by CharcoalGurl in I just received the last deskmats for this year. Happy holidays to all of you. by cheswickFS
from the beginning it was already clear that you did not understand the point of my argument. Collecting is not a problem, I for example have 4 pads, a Control L, speed L and 2 xl aesthetics.
I don't care, nobody cares, I don't know the OP. The point is, basing happiness on junk is not psychologically heealth.
And more than that, I don't collect anything, maybe you have this capitalist (maybe American) idea of having a lot of unnecessary, expensive and exclusive things, socially normalized in you
QWERKey-UK t1_j1lakac wrote
>basing happiness on junk is not psychologically heealth
How do you know he bases his happiness on this? Stop being judgemental.
LuisFontinelles t1_j1lfjm1 wrote
Does he buy to be sad? Buy just to buy? If he buys it, it's because he is happy with the purchase (this is not a problem, unless it becomes an addiction).
QWERKey-UK t1_j1likrj wrote
So do you only buy things you need, and never buy anything for pleasure?
busy-little-b t1_j1lrmqa wrote
bro he's not saying not to buy for pleasure, he's saying that some moderation is necessary because accumulating the same things can become a little absurd at some point.
tytbalt t1_j1xaw6i wrote
In another comment, he admitted he buys out of fomo
QWERKey-UK t1_j1xknla wrote
So? You're judging people, and making assumptions about them when it's none of your business.
tytbalt t1_j1xsc89 wrote
I'm not the commenter you replied to, but I do have experience with shopping addiction.
QWERKey-UK t1_j1xtgok wrote
You seemed to be saying that FOMO is relevant when judging whether someone bases happiness on buying things. Not necessarily so. Many people who collect things feel it. It doesn't mean anything. I once spent way too much money on a set of vintage skateboard trucks, and felt a need to collect at least one set of every Kryptonic skateboard wheel ever made. They have no bearing on my overall happiness, but I just had to have them. Now I have them, I know I am preserving a little bit of history, and I must admit to just getting them out once in a while, and just looking at them. Months can go by without giving them a single thought... but at the time, FOMO was a massive thing while I was on the look out for them.
Many psychologists equate collecting to the hunting instinct that is latent in all of us, and exercising it can be just as healthy as it can be unhealthy.
tytbalt t1_j1ydbnh wrote
>Many psychologists equate collecting to the hunting instinct that is latent in all of us
Lol, save the evolutionary psych nonsense. Fomo on rare occasions isn't necessarily a bad thing, but if it becomes the driving force in purchasing things (like every mat that is a limited release), then you're no longer buying things for the pleasure of owning them, but to avoid the anxiety of not buying them. That's where people get into trouble. Negative reinforcement can be very effective at continuing a behavior like shopping. Speaking from experience, I look at OP and worry.
QWERKey-UK t1_j1ym6hd wrote
>Lol, save the evolutionary psych nonsense.
(shrug) If that's what you think it is.
Anything can form addictive behaviours, even things that for most people would seem quite innocuous. It's not the activity itself that is dangerous, but the underlying condition that leads to that behaviour. Basically, someone with a proclivity for addictive behaviour will usually find something to feed that addiction. Millions of people all over the world collect things avidly, feel FOMO when they see things, and do not suffer any psychological harm from doing so. I appreciate that your perspective has been coloured by your own personal experience, but I really don't think the OP has a problem. He sounds quite sanguine about the whole thing, and from what he says, seems to have a disposable income to support his collection, so I would not worry unduly.
CharcoalGurl t1_j1lp5kz wrote
Dude I clearly don't know what you are saying. So you can collect but if you get dopamine from it, it is now unhealthy?
If you don't care then why say that about dopamine? Like you make it sound like the moment you become happy with collecting, it is now unhealthy. Like I agree that if someone ONLY gets happy from buying then yeah, gotta step back and look at that, but you are seeming to make a blanket statement. The moment I am happy from collecting, now it is unhealthy.
Like I said, cool that you don't collect. I actually collect electrical junk so I can reuse them for other purposes. Do I have a closet full? No I got like 2 shelves of it, so is this unhealthy? Because I get a dopamine hit from finding junk and thinking of all the parts I can use it for OR thinking of why it is broken? You know what I got for Christmas? A soldering mat so I didn't accidentally melt my table as easily.
Like seriously WHAT are you trying to say since clearly I am not getting it. Like collecting is bad because you get dopamine hits? Like collecting is a drug? Dude I earn my money and can use it how I like. If you don't care about what OP collects then why make the statement? I feel like you are trying to be holier than thou but you arent. I am really happy that you dont really collect, I really am. But just let people be happy in their own way. As long as they arent causing harm (physically, financially, mentally, etc) then what problem ARE they having?
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