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Gheist009 t1_ixjxxpm wrote

This email/text didn't seem particularly vague to me? Also, doesn't seem like there is any anymosity at all, which is good. They were a band before you met them 4 months ago. They gave you a good run to feel out your style (4 months is a pretty lengthy trial period) and it wasn't what they ultimately wanted. Nothing about you personal, but by the sounds of it, just not what they ended up needing for their established project.

If I have one solid piece of advice? Keep thinking of these guys as friends. Don't write them off. You may find yourself in a side project with any one of them in the future. They've already half-invited you to a colaboration project, even if there is only one song so far.

Also, having spent 4 months with them should have opened at least a few doors. KEEP WRITING, KEEP PLAYING!! Don't let a set back like this ruin you. It will not be the last time this happens if you continue to make music with others, it is inevitable that conflicting ideas/personalities will pop up in any art, particularly when there is an established core that you are invited into. Sometimes they can be overcome, sometimes not.

Work on your own sound, put out feelers in the area and start a new project! Or two! Or 10!!

No band lasts forever, so don't let the end of the second one kill your spirit any more than leaving your first band did.

Again, keep writing, keep playing, keep active in the scene and stay true to your style. Your still young, it's not over yet.

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MDS1138 t1_ixk0ga0 wrote

This is all solid advice for OP. Agree wholeheartedly about the friends thing especially.
You might work with one of them on other projects, or you may network and meet other musicians mutually through them. Keep it classy, and you're the first guy your friends recommend when some other band they know needs a new guitar player.

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[deleted] OP t1_ixlh7mu wrote

Well put and spot on. Artistic collaborations are notoriously fluid and in truth that's a good thing as it often forces artists to stretch out beyond their creative comfort zones. And frankly writing as an avid consumer of music (and dedicated guitarist) much of the best music we have has resulted from bands dissolving and reforming in new combinations with all the revitalization of creativity that often accompanies that process.

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