drewbaccaAWD t1_jbhn88x wrote on March 9, 2023 at 2:38 AM

Reply to comment by effdubbs in Planning on moving to PA, as someone who is LGBTQ+ curious about areas to avoid. by VaginaHotPocket

Harrisburg is fine, but there's a sudden drop off about maybe five miles out.

A lot of other areas are fine too, from a feeling safe point of view, but then there's always this sense that you need to make the town better rather than actually just being happy where you live and enjoying what's already there.

When I lived in Seattle, especially... you'd just turn a corner and walk into some memorable and wonderful experience. Out in the PA boonies, you have to actively look for things and they're few and far between.

VaginaHotPocket OP t1_jbhvijz wrote on March 9, 2023 at 3:43 AM

I am actually born and raised from Seattle! My husband however was born/raised in NJ. Seattle is definitely great in that SO MANY areas are accepting and inviting.

Dry_Presence7112 t1_jbj8jmx wrote on March 9, 2023 at 1:13 PM

I think it would be worse for you two that he is from NJ, lol

VaginaHotPocket OP t1_jbjdc71 wrote on March 9, 2023 at 1:53 PM

Lol! Any reason in particular? 😂

PM_SOME_OBESE_CATS t1_jbr4zi9 wrote on March 11, 2023 at 1:43 AM

It's just a state rivalry thing. We definitely make fun of NJ a lot lmao

At least you're not Ohio :)

Dry_Presence7112 t1_jbjj94u wrote on March 9, 2023 at 2:37 PM

I don't think it's anything in particular. It's kind of like when you are cooking and the lid falls off the seasoning and it all dumps in and what could've been great is just overwhelmingly salty. 😁

drewbaccaAWD t1_jbjc4k0 wrote on March 9, 2023 at 1:43 PM

My above comment had a very specific event in mind. A friend had a friend visiting from France and I was escorting her downtown one day because she wanted to pick up a room divider for when her parents were in town to visit. I had remembered seeing some cool Asian rice paper dividers at Uwajimaya so we were headed in that direction. We walked right into a May Day parade with probably 100 people dressed as chefs swing dancing, playing brass instruments, and handing out cakes (which coincidentally, she got one). It was so confusing... and awesome, to just blindly walk into that.

Another example was when my cousin was in town to visit and I wanted to show him Gas Works Park. There was apparently some Fremont Arts Council event going on which was a community mock wedding.

I feel like I never knew what I was going to walk into there.

effdubbs t1_jbj0qaz wrote on March 9, 2023 at 11:57 AM

I’ve found that drop off around the Lehigh Valley area as well. The PA boonies are shockingly unlike the cities. It’s a dramatic change over a small geography. Seattle sounds fabulous!

Mustang46L t1_jbjf580 wrote on March 9, 2023 at 2:07 PM

Five miles, north. Carlisle and York are also fine and pretty much everywhere in that triangle.. with some exceptions. Lancaster would be fine too.