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linsor1 t1_j37bv7p wrote

Reply to comment by MeEvilBob in Are sex offenders required to notify neighbors in PA? by mama-moth

They can be on that list for having a consensual relationship with a 15 year old when they are 18. I used to work with a guy like that. The girl's parents pressed charges on him (she didn't want them to) and he went to jail and is now a registered sex offender.

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raven4747 t1_j37djph wrote

okay well.. that's still creepy lol.

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jersey_girl660 t1_j39szpc wrote

Creepy definitely but should it be illegal? Absolutely not. There’s usually age difference exemptions in these laws for a reason.

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MeEvilBob t1_j37dzao wrote

If 2 17 year olds are in love and one turns 18 before the other, is that creepy?

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raven4747 t1_j37e644 wrote

the example in question was a 15 & 18 yr old, don't move the goalposts lol.

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YoungHeartOldSoul t1_j37f0kd wrote

Assuming at some point they were 15 & 17, that's not necessarily that strange. I personally was younger than all of my peers because my birthday was at the start of the school year, very close to the cut off date to start.

In that same situation he could just be, one grade higher and two years older, add one of more of his birthdays and a few more months and suddenly you've got an 18-year-old dating a 15-year-old.

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raven4747 t1_j37fyds wrote

sounds like you're doing a lot of mental gymnastics to justify this lol. an 18 year old is out of high school or just about to be, a 15 year old is still in 9th-10th grade. thats creepy.

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YoungHeartOldSoul t1_j37goic wrote

I'm not justifying it my point is that we need more context before you can pass a judgment on this. Yeah it may warrant investigation but it's not immediately, obviously illegal.

I myself at 16 dated a Jr in high school that was 18 or 19 due to birthday shenanigans, it's not that undead of.

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linsor1 t1_j37w7ns wrote

Context is the parents didn't like him because he wasn't "good enough" for their daughter. They were both still in high school, she was almost 16, and they pressed charges before she turned 16, which is the age of consent, or was at the time anyway. He tried to fight it based on how close she was to turning 16, but her family was well known in a smaller town, so who do you think the court system would side with? He wasn't a bad guy at all, he just wasn't of a good enough social class for them.

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raven4747 t1_j37ivqz wrote

nah I agree there are some rare instances where its not as bad.. but as an 18 yr old male, you gotta know better and its no one's fault but your own if you get in trouble for it.

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AbsentEmpire t1_j389y8h wrote

OK so a 17 year old boy in high school dating a 15 year old a grade below him should immediately break up the second they turn 18 even though nothing else changed or risk being labeled a sex offender for life, because you think it's now automatically creepy. That seems totally reasonable.

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bens111 t1_j37m4ci wrote

If you dated an 18+ year old as a 16 year old that is creepy af. It just is.

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Yen-sama t1_j38rcg9 wrote

Since the school year starts in September, plenty of kids turn 18 right at the beginning of 12th grade, or do you think birthdays don't happen between September and January?

18 year olds are high school kids. Grow up and deal with it

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