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wagsman t1_j6on9n0 wrote

There has to be more to this. What was so bad that none of these 3 could pull themselves out of this funk long enough to seek help for themselves and the other 2?

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Hillbl3 t1_j6p0kjt wrote

>What was so bad...

Hey look, another person who doesn't understand how mental illness works.

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Whatchyaduinyachooch t1_j6p3g64 wrote

My thoughts exactly. The article also stated that the parents had sort of pulled away from the community. I’m sure they had been dealing with their daughter’s hallucinations and hearing voices (I guess schizophrenia) and that wears on a caregiver- especially a parent. You keep wondering why your child can’t just be happy and unencumbered by such a severe mental illness..so you form a protective barrier around your little family…thinking you’re doing your best but ultimately it actually pulls you down with your child…and there’s no end plus u know at some point your child WON’T have you to take care of their very specific and overwhelming needs. It’s tragic. I understand it though. Such a sad sad story.

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sunglasses90 t1_j6p83nz wrote

The sad part is that there are extremely effecting drugs for schizophrenia out there. The hardest part is getting someone to take them, but they work.

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dangerousfeather t1_j6pgb8f wrote

Sure, they work, but they tend to make you fat, exhausted, and incapable of having sex. You get rid of your hallucinations, but you have no desire for life leftover. There are reasons people don't take them.

(source: I take them.)

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monachopsiss t1_j6pim3f wrote

This is a really dangerous general statement to make, and hearing stuff like this contributes to people being unwilling to try necessary medication. I'm sorry that's been your experience, but they greatly increase quality of life for many many people who don't have terrible side effects.

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dangerousfeather t1_j6pj9ej wrote

I'm sorry if the reality of these drugs offends you, but this is the state of mental health medication for many of us. What we need isn't hating on people who suffer, it's more emphasis into developing better drugs rather than continuing to rely on the same types of medications we've been using since the days of institutionalization.

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monachopsiss t1_j6pjv7b wrote

>this is the state of mental health medication for many of us.

As I clearly stated in my original response to you, I am aware of that. But it's your experience. Not everyone's.

Obviously we'd all love to snap our fingers and have perfect meds for every condition with zero negative side effects. But since that will never be possible, we shouldn't discourage people from at least trying something that could literally save their life.

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Whatchyaduinyachooch t1_j6pbz6d wrote

Definitely hard to get an adult - even if it’s your adult child- to take he meds and take them religiously. They don’t have to do it. You can involuntarily commit them but even that can be a problem because you risk alienating them and then after they are released they can stop taking the meds anyway- it’s heartbreaking…

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Away-Plant-8989 t1_j6ozubk wrote

You get older and health problems compound your mental ones. This country robs you out of your savings when you get inevitably sick. Look at the comments on this. Lack of empathy from anyone because nobody cares for the old. The way society treats the ill like lepers. A problem to scrape into the bin. At least people don't pretend anymore to lack sympathy. They half-assed wring their hands "oh a pity what's there to do?"

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Tidusx145 t1_j6ov0mr wrote

Daughter had severe mental issues and the parents likely had something as well.

Suicide will never make sense to me as an agnostic, as such I don't know if I'll ever be able to truly empathize with the mindset. I don't understand it and can't pretend to. As a result I doubt you or I will ever get a proper explanation of why outside of those letters going public.

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monachopsiss t1_j6piaup wrote

REALLY? Their daughter was severely mentally ill and they didn't want to live without her when she killed herself. THAT'S what was "so bad." You should be grateful you can't even imagine it, but you can still have some fucking empathy.

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