I made peace with my (ex who’s a) narcissist. I learned how to spot one. I learned how to be vigilant about selfish traits in myself. I learned how a person should and should not be treated in a healthy relationship.

And, as far as I can tell, my narcissist learned nothing. She’s truly blind to the fact that it’s her own behavior which is holding her back the most, and that’s what I find most hurtful. I want her to move on and find someone else and be happy but unless she identifies her narcissistic behavior as the source of her continuous relationship failures, she’ll never learn to love unconditionally, which I find sad.

Narcissists make me sad. Deep down they’re so traumatized and insecure, that they can’t be genuine and let their true vulnerable selves through. Instead it’s all a front of their perfect false self that is 100% self focused and unable to meaningfully connect with other human beings.