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Gwanosh t1_itzk6hs wrote

Reply to comment by Yuna__707 in Most of society’s problems derive from people holding everyone else to higher standards than they hold themselves by Scatterbrained247365

I would argue someone who knows you well and is comfortable and close enough with/to you can make you realize intentions you didn't realize you had at times. Whether directly by seing them where you fail to or indirectly by giving you a different perspective.

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Yuna__707 t1_itzkr7l wrote

It’s not unbiased either tho, they likely have their own prejudices and are likely have similar views to their friend as close friends often have similar beliefs and perspectives.

Also they may try compromise in sharing their views harshly to spare their friendship.

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Gwanosh t1_itzm84p wrote

While all true, it doesn't invalidate that the reverse happens. We could argue percentages but it's ultimately futile.

I would generally agree that you're a better judge of your own intentions than others, but I would suggest that being open to the possibility that you misread your own intentions is critical to being better. My only observation, empirically, is that I see too many people either maliciously misrepresent their intentions or fail to perceive them. There's another pointless percentage discussion which is how often my own perception is wrong.

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Yuna__707 t1_itznt9w wrote

While you’re entirely right that our own perception of our intentions may be conceited or overlooked.

At the same time, other’s perception of our intentions aren’t necessarily unbiased and likely have their own prejudices and intentions.

It’s good to be open to other’s perspectives and the possibility of intentions being misinterpreted or misguided, failing to understand the inherent prejudices of others around you and viewing opinions as objective over subjective may further misguide your intent..

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doogle_126 t1_iu1vn4a wrote

And best to gather data from more then one person. Remember, if you about your day and meet and asshole, he's an asshole. If you go about your day and everyone is an asshole, you're the asshole.

We don't get to decide what society thinks of us. We can follow all the rules and still get slandered and ostracized.

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