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Women are expected to earn their compliments too. They're just expected to hide all the prep work they put themselves through to get into the condition that causes the compliment.

Of course there is no universal statement, but seeing a post from someone else, I realized that men rarely get complicated. Apparently some men get complimented so rarely they still remember ones they received decades ago based on the comments in the post I was reading

This shit starts at early childhood.

As someone who had been pursuing her degree in early childhood development, I can tell you through both research/documentation and personal observation that gender expectations start before they even get out of the womb!

Girls are automatically cute, and if they are not their outfits/appearances are complimented. Boys are complimented on their cognitive accomplishments and their size even when they're not in control of either. Girls=appearance and boys=accomplishments.

And that's lame. But it's EASY. It's easy conversation.

So, when you are introduced to a girl, choose a compliment that is not related to appearance. Ask her a question, like what's a book she's read lately and how she feels about it. Ask a boy the same thing! If it's a baby, ask them how the parents are faring. Ask them about THEIR experiences.

Focus on the person, not their gender. There's nothing "socially progressive" about that. It's just considerate, that's all.

That’s interesting thank you for sharing

But the earned compliment could be specific and unannounced whereas the received compliment could be automatic and generalized

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That is a good point