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100LittleButterflies t1_j2bz5wv wrote

Reply to comment by space_cvnts in There’s no word in English for a parent who has lost a child by space_cvnts

I get what you're saying. And I agree.

I'm facing my parents' mortality and it feels wrong to have to survive the death of the only people you've known your whole life - who have known you through it all. Not unnatural just not fair. Though life has no obligation to fairness somehow that doesn't ease the pain.

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space_cvnts OP t1_j2c0059 wrote

My dads 64 and he’s my entire world. Besides my daughter. (He used to say I was his favorite, don’t tell my twin sister though, and now he says my daughter is— but like I know even though he calls and I answer and he’s like ‘oh. Hey wheres kp’ like my four year old will answer MY PHONE, he loves me the most. So it’s whatever) like he’s literally everything.

I honestly don’t know how I’ll survive. and he’s got health issues and I’m scared he’s not telling me so I don’t worry.

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MinniesWorld t1_j2dvhen wrote

If you have a good relationship with him, ask him questions and stories. And if he’s willing, record them. Ask him his favorite school memory, or about when you were born, or his first prom date. You have no idea how valuable the stories will be when you can no longer ask. And even better for a video that you can enjoy. The history of you is gone when your parents are gone, so whatever questions you want to ask about his past or yours-— now is the time.

I gave my father a blank journal, and I told him that anytime he thought of some piece of wisdom or a little anecdote that he wanted to share, he should write in it. He thought it was stupid at first, but then he really got into it, and I treasure it.

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