Having parents is probably one of the most universal, preeminent human experiences. It’s so common that it overlooked. For those of us who don’t know our parents / don’t know our nationality, it’s very important to our ego and identity and to ourselves that we make sense of our place in this world.

It can hardly be explained to someone who has parents or who has their family intact. I could type all afternoon about it but it doesn’t matter because most people cannot place themselves in the shoes of an adoption triad. They can’t imagine their lives without their family and their identity so it’s pointless to try to explain.

Your backlash against adopted kids knowing birth relations is misguided and sad though. People are naturally curious about their origins, both in terms of people and places - it’s a common trait of modern man to wonder how the fuck we arrived here.

You said it yourself, “you’ll never get it”, exactly - you won’t EVER get it because it’s a problem you don’t have to deal with it. I’ll never get what it’s like to be a dog but I sure as hell aren’t outside calling them pricks when they bark.