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kookiemaster t1_j4tgnys wrote

There is a lot of scrutiny when you try to make a non directed donation. Here (in Canada) we can do it with a bunch of psychosocial screenings. I struggled to explain why I wanted to donate but basically with very minimal risk to myself I could give someone a decade or two of way better quality of life. It may seem purely altruistic but knowing that some stranger somewhere got a bit longer to live their lives is something very comforting. I did get an anonymous letter from him and it was a father of two who was able to go back ro work so his wife wouldn't carry that whole burden herself. He spoke about being able to see his kids grow up. To know I played a part in it meant a lot to me. That is my "benefit". It has in some way improved my mental health because no matter what I at least did that one good thing.


Astavri t1_j4uzdiz wrote

It's funny one of the most rare things happens to be on reddit in the same comment chain, someone's mother, and two people themselves.

It's internet so forgive me for my skepticism.

Your history shows talking about personality disorders and anxiety/depression. I don't think they would have let you donate, but I don't let false information fill my mind.


kookiemaster t1_j4v9rwc wrote

If you are so curious the depression was about 10 years in remission when I donated. If you have active depression sure, likely not possible to donate, but a history of depression isn't a full on counter-indication. I was honest with the psychiatrist about it. The depression was sort of linked to having a schizoid personality and actually understanding how my personality was built did wonders to deal with the depression; enough to get off meds and therapy.

It is true that PDs are kind of permanent but they are only a "disorder" so long as they really impact your functioning. There was a time when it did, but when I donated, it didn't. If you can live independently, work, support yourself and have a reasonably stable life, despite being mostly a loner and preferring solitary activities, I was very happy and content when I donated.

Back then psychiatrist doing the assessment asked me why I wanted to donate, and about things like mood, sleep, etc. I think they want to ensure people realize what donation entails and that your motivation is not linked to a mental disorder.

And well, the anxiety is recent. A derecho hit our city, and to massive trees fell on our house. The follow-up chaos sent me in to an anxiety spiral. I mean, I've been a worrier all my life but only for certain things. House getting destroyed is one of them. So yeah, fun times. But much better now.

And for what it's worth, there is a pretty big Reddit community related to transplants (donors and recipients), to share info on the process, etc.


cyberFluke t1_j4ugd0m wrote

I feel you. Our lives are at worth it, knowing we made others' lives better, that we saved a life.

I haven't donated tissue, (yet?) but I know I have been in the right place at the right time to save at least one life. I draw comfort from knowing that I made a positive difference somewhere.

Tha's a good egg, as we say round these parts. ๐Ÿงก


kookiemaster t1_j4vb0er wrote

I view it as buying ther person time. Pretty much any organ eventually gets rejected but a decade or two is something.

You can also donate post mortem or bone marrow. Still on the registry for that but I think I am getting too old for that.

And even people who get assessed and cannot donate are to be comended. They were willing to do it but couldn't for whatever reason. Can be as uncontrollable as the anatomy of your kidneys (number of arteries, synetry, etc).


cyberFluke t1_j4vhyqh wrote

Here in the UK, we have an opt-in (except on a new driving licence application, defaults in unless you tick a box IIRC) organ donor registry which will use any bits I'm willing to donate (the lot, if it's of any use to anyone. What do I need it for? I'm dead at this point ๐Ÿ˜‚).

It does require me to either die close enough to a hospital, or die in such a way that my meatbag can be kept on support until they can strip it for parts though. A dead human doesn't stay viable as parts for very long, and our NHS is collapsing before our very eyes (as is intended by the vile vultures in power, but that's another story entirely...)


kookiemaster t1_j4vv43p wrote

I also registered to donate my body to science (with a university in my city) so of organ donation doesn't pan out I can help train doctors. I think they would still take my body sans the one kidney I gave, but not with the full post mortem donation (won't be much left to use XD).