Hi there.. I have a close friend who is one of the top autism needs professionals in the state. She's not a redditor so I ran your post by her and here was her answer:

"I recommend Auburn, which is next to Worcester. They have an integrated and specialized special needs program within the school, as well as through their after school and extra curricular activities. I recommend then pursuing a family advocate to assist with this process and also to get in touch with the local department of developmental services, as there are family support programs there. Another good resource is the Autism Alliance" (which is an affiliate of the very large autism support program she runs).

She also says that if you'd like to reach out to her directly, she'd be happy to discuss your options with you. Send me a DM and I can give you her email address.

Good luck!