Submitted by JohnnyMcCoolcat t3_111hxod in WorcesterMA
Hi, I’m M25, recently got broken up with by my girlfriend of 3 years, and I think she’s taking what few friends I have in the separation. Are there any good places/ events in the area to help starting out from scratch?
Kinda worried posting this, I swear I am a normal person, graduated from Clark University last year
Thanks for any suggestions
juuust be careful. i don't recommend making exercise your only outlet rn, nor tying your self esteem to your body's specs :-/ also can't recommend spending all your time at the gym as a particularly great way to meet people, but that's my experience
investing your time in a variety of hobbies that interest you is healthy - pumping iron not excluded if that's genuinely your thing
if you’re into live music of any kind i’d start there, really easy to make friends when everyone around has that common interest. check out some of the venues or bars in the area to see if there’s any shows of interest. ive made plenty of friends at Ralph’s specifically
Ralph’s, thanks for the suggestion
It’s very hard when mutual friends are involved when someone breaks up because you feel like they have to side for one of you etc, but don’t feel worried about posting Worcester is becoming a big scene so many things to do around. Nightlife and breweries , check out the group app meet up for local things your into the have one for hiking or kayaking. Look on Facebook for local groups or what about local parks.
What are you into?
I’m interested in live music, hanging outdoors, trivia, moderate gaming, history, museums. Any good suggestions based off that?
Honestly I’m really worried to join a group that’s specifically to meet people, feel like it’s a little unnatural/ can meet some real characters
That’s understandable live music happens alot the pladium live bands at local breweries and trivia nights as well :) museum meet ups on local groups maybe even check here see If they do.
Check out all systems go in Worcester. Gaming bar, allows you to be a bit social while also enjoying some gaming
The best way to handle this is to lean into any activities or hobbies that you enjoy, and then find a place were you can partake around other people..classes, groups, etc.
Once there, just be approachable and friendly. Everything else will fall into place.
I found success this way because when you think about it you're not starting from zero. You're going to already have something in common with those other folks there and that can be the foundation for conversations/hangouts.
I was in the same situation about 6yrs ago after breakup with no friends. I have made dozens of acquaintances and three of which I can say are the best friends ive ever had.
Yeah i agree, what did you do?
Check out the new restaurant blackstone Worcester. My friends in the techno/house/music scene are doing residency type shows there every other Saturday. If you use Facebook you can follow blackstone Worcester and they post about their upcoming live music.
Other good venues include electric haze, mint kitchen and bar, the Vernon, Ralph’s rock diner, and more.
Another way to make connections is by getting active in the community. I organize with Worcester Community Fridges and have met some amazing friends in my community activism and mutual aid. We’re on Facebook and instagram!
Feel free to message me if you have any questions! Fellow worcesterite here (F29).
Community organizations might be a good idea, how does one start getting involved in that?
try visiting the Worcester public library! they have a lot of brochures you can take, but also someone at the desk may be able to give you first hand insight about local community events/orgs/clubs
We have a discord channel that you can join.
Fill out this google form and we will get you added!Very easy to jump in and get started once you are connected here.
Techno in Worcester? Hell ya
Check out Worcester Audio Revival Productions (WARP) on Facebook! My friend is really trying to revive the house and techno scene. WARP is also on instagram.
Thanks for sharing!
I've made a few new friends at the Wrestling Open events upstairs at White Eagle on Thursday nights!
There are cornhole leagues at many breweries and The School Yahd in West Boylston. Darts, bowling, hockey, fitness classes if you're into that stuff. Rock climbing gym. Bars. Breweries are usually very friendly.
Join a league, meet some new friends while developing a new hobby
How would you suggest doing that?
Definitely check out Free Play Bar Arcade! Great place to meet people, tons of fun, great drink menu. $10 cover, all the vintage/retro arcade games are free, plus they have live music most weekends during the summer.
Start with your hobbies.
If you like music, there's tons of venues already mentioned.
Gaming - That's Entertainment or All Systems Go depending if you like table top or video. (There's other options as well)
Climbing? Central Rock Gym
There's also the meetup app. There's a Worcester 20s-30s group that does things like hiking trips nearby or restaurant/brewery meetups.
Great suggestions all, would add non-alcohol events and organizations. Music Worcester. Worcester Art Museum. Volunteer possibilities. Join a chorus. Take sailing lessons at Regatta Point Community Sailing
Join my recreational kickball team this spring! We play in the ClubWaka league at crompton park. Feel free to PM me for more details! The more the merrier! Always looking to make new friends :)
Need a lifting buddy? We go gym 🏋🏽
Yeah, where in town/ what gym do you frequent?
Worcester (Town of Two Betrayals) sucks to make new quality friends unless you're an anarchist punk type or a boomer. Definitely through jobs or community volunteering here would be the best bet at finding good friends.
I rarely interact with people now that I work at home but all my friends I had here so far are women because the only way I could connect myself was making a tinder profile geared for hangouts and not dating. That oddly worked well enough but again with the lack of other men to hang out with.
Jobs like UPS in shrewsbury have their own unions with plenty of people that would hang out with you, too bad I worked there when it was just composed of old people.
bodaciousboner t1_j8igw53 wrote
Sorry man, that sucks. My advice is to do what every guy does when they get broken up with- hit the gym and get shredded. You can probably make some friends there, if not your confidence and self-esteem will improve and carry you through this tough time.
I’d offer to hang out, but I’m 35 with a wife and a kid on the way, so I’m about to disappear off the face of the earth in a few months. Wish me luck.