dupattaluella t1_j9ku8ww wrote on February 22, 2023 at 6:38 PM

Reply to comment by Wendon in Trans Girl looking for a hairstylist who is knowledgeable about working with Trans people by Jade_of_the_Sea36

I guess I just don't understand how a haircut and styling hair had anything to with gender. I see men and women with long hair and short hair, dyed hair, buzzed heads, etc. I don't look at their styles as indicative of their gender in any way.

Wendon t1_j9kvmy6 wrote on February 22, 2023 at 6:46 PM

You are overcomplicating this. Against my better judgement I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you are being earnest- it doesn't matter what you think when you look at someone, if you think they are male or female or trans. It doesn't matter that some men have 3' long hair and some women have buzzed heads. It matters to them that they are presenting as the gender they are, in a way that makes them feel comfortable in their bodies. This is a really 101-level way for a trans person to improve their dysphoria, I urge you to do some research on gender dysphoria if you are genuinely interested in the topic.

dupattaluella t1_j9kwc4i wrote on February 22, 2023 at 6:50 PM

>You are overcomplicating this.

I think the inverse is actually true.

>It matters to them that they are presenting as the gender they are, in a way that makes them feel comfortable in their bodies.

And that doesn't change how a hairstylist cuts their hair. If a hairstylist is going to judge anyone (no matter their gender) on what they do with their hair, they're not a good stylist or person.

Wendon t1_j9kwv6e wrote on February 22, 2023 at 6:53 PM

Yes it literally does? If I show up and tell the stylist "I want to present more feminine can you help my hair communicate that" it absolutely does matter. You're a bully, you cannot possibly be acting in good faith, no one is this dense.

dupattaluella t1_j9kybut wrote on February 22, 2023 at 7:02 PM

What is feminine hair though? This is what I'm trying to get across. I see people who look masculine and people who look feminine with long hair, short hair, buzzed hair, bald, curly hair, straight hair, wavy hair, etc. Trying to present masculine or feminine is literally different to everyone.