Your friends sound weird. The whole point of a “speakeasy” style place is that it’s not officially advertised, but spread through word of mouth. Telling your friends about them is the whole point. Are you really friends with these people? Do they think you’re a cop or something? Even if they did, as others have pointed out, prohibition is over - there’s no real reason to keep these places secret because there’s no real penalty for them to operate. It kind of seems like your friends just don’t think you’re cool enough to know about these places - I’m not saying that to insult you, but more to point out that maybe you should get better friends - the ones you have sound like they think they’re better than you or something, which isn’t really an attitude I’d want from my friends.