HELP ME!!!!!!!!

Submitted by 0XxSilentWolfxX0 t3_zswnf5 in baltimore

I've been talking to this girl on hinge, and I want to take her out on a date. the problem is I'm a homebody so I don't know where to go. I was thinking about dave & buster, top golf something like that. So if anybody knows the best places or any other ideas I would really appreciate it.

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murthivelli123 t1_j1avg2y wrote

A lot of these suggestions are not good first date ideas. Keep it simple. Drinks at a bar. Somewhere low-key where you can enjoy each other's company.

If it works out then you can continue your night with dinner or plan a future outing. If it doesn't then you can get the check and bounce.

But don't trap you and your date with something elaborate or extravagant for a first date!

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Classifiedgarlic t1_j1cji0s wrote

Also drinks- dinner at a nice but casual place is good because it gives both parties an easy out. If the night is going uncomfortably saying “wow great dinner bye” is always a good way to end the evening

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MissiontwoMars t1_j1cp48b wrote

Yeah you’re overthinking it. Drinks and see if you hit it off. You’ll know pretty quick honestly and that’s why you do drinks not dinner so if you’re not hitting it off you can make a clean exit.

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sportsDude t1_j1e9gib wrote

Agreed. The ideal first date is a place you can get to know each other. Make it about knowing if there is a spark with the other person, and dont feel like you're trapping them in

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Bravesfan043 t1_j1ahelk wrote

If your objective is a serious relationship — I’d do the BMA or the Walters. I’ve had a lot of success there. The environment will lend itself to create conversation naturally whereas a bar/dinner date can turn to small talk. They can take a few hours to walk through and you can really get to know each other.

If your objective is to get laid — decent bar with good food within walking distance of your place on a Saturday night.

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KrylonSketchCan t1_j1ai3x5 wrote

This guy gets it… logistics is KING

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Bravesfan043 t1_j1al1qy wrote

When I was in my 20’s, I had bars for when I was trying to get laid, but I didn’t want to be seen by anyone I knew (e.g I was trying to land a cougar). The old Bad Decisions was great for that.

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designbyblake t1_j1auqx0 wrote

Excuse me ma’am, im going to go urinate in a bathroom that smells like death and has the rock staring at me.

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Classifiedgarlic t1_j1cj9cf wrote

BMA is also a decent hookup place- nothing turns people on quite like art

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rrherbiedragons t1_j1aefiv wrote

Illusions Magic bar in Federal Hill would be a good place. Don’t do a movie- terrible first date, you are spending 2 hours not taking to each other.

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Armistarphoto t1_j1ajulz wrote

Illusions is great. A little on the higher end price point, and you also run into the problem of not talking too much because you're at a show.

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Litter-bug86 t1_j1bsim8 wrote

The bar up front opens an hour before the show. Great spot to have a conversation.

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mibfto t1_j1bj4ms wrote

I made the mistake of a movie as a second date with someone I was on the fence about to begin with. Prebought the tickets and everything, for I am very stupid.

Don't be dumb like me. No movies until you definitely, for sure, enjoy spending time with someone. It's a trap!

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sxswnxnw t1_j1bbcma wrote

Good dates to guys are... Sometimes so different compared to what I would think is a good date.

Mind you, I am 40 and female, but if someone took me to Top Golf or Dave and Busters for a first date, it would be the last date. Those are, imo, places for when you have a better rapport with someone or when you are like early 20s. Definitely better to fi d out what your date likes or just keep it simple, like go for a drink at someplace cool.

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DiscoDeadhead t1_j1adyxn wrote

Mustang Alleys for bowling, food and drinks. Great first date, Urban Axes could also be fun

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micbelt t1_j1bsn7q wrote

R House is a good choice because there is a variety of good choices and a bar in the middle.

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Classifiedgarlic t1_j1cjyy7 wrote

Unsolicited advice: wherever you go make sure it’s SUPER DUPER PUBLIC. You probably aren’t an ax murderer but as women we’ve been socialized to be extra anxious about meeting unfamiliar men. Dinner at 7 is fine but don’t be out past 1030 unless this is a hookup/ an event runs late.

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SweatyPalms29 t1_j1avltg wrote

You could do a walk through of the Baltimore zoo lights, then hit up some food/drinks nearby like Birroteca, or other spots in Hampden. Hampden has some great choices like Wicked Sisters, The Food Market, Fraziers, Holy Frijoles, Five & Dime — they’re all very different, so check out their menus first to pick something that suits you.

On second thought, Hampden has 34th street lights and it’s free! No need for the zoo.

Edit: removed a duplicate phrase

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mibfto t1_j1bjcqu wrote

An absolute crime the Blue Bird cocktail lounge isn't on this list, and Fraziers is. I am reporting you to the "clearly under 30" police.

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SweatyPalms29 t1_j1d3ysw wrote

Hahah I’m actually over 30, but with kids. So Fraziers is a better spot to grab lunch during a family outing and came to mind first 😅

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badbatch t1_j1eo7d2 wrote

The Blue Bird is expensive but worth it.

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zblaxberg t1_j1b1qjh wrote

My first date on hinge we went to Union Collective for dinner and drinks and then Charmery for ice cream.

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Holy__Schmitz t1_j1ad6z5 wrote

Ice skating in the inner harbor is a nice date, plus a lot of food options around for after.

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fredblockburn t1_j1ahd42 wrote

Not good ones.

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Holy__Schmitz t1_j1ahs4a wrote

I’m sorry you can’t find anything decent to eat around the inner harbor, cope?

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TeachGullible t1_j1aimk3 wrote

Because there isn't anything good to eat around the inner harbor. Except maybe Shake Shack which isn't date worthy. Are you suggesting the OP take his date to tourist traps like Phillips?

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Holy__Schmitz t1_j1aizwd wrote

If you’re going to consider shake shack good, then places like CFA, Chipotle, Corner Bakery, Kabul, Attman’s, Asian Fusion, and the little halal cart by powerplant can be considered good to someone. I don’t know this guys budget or what him and his date like.

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TeachGullible t1_j1ajgb2 wrote

Good doesn't equate to good for a date. I respect the idea of Ice Skating as a first date activity but for food I'd recommend venturing into Fells or Fed Hill.

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leon_de_sol t1_j1aqtu1 wrote

I feel like this one really depends on what you two are interested in. Definitely wouldn't ever recommend top golf unless you both really love golf and don't mind the prices.

Museums are always a great option, plenty around here. If they're new to the area then maybe even the aquarium.

Bars are always an easy option, lots of great choices.

The Christmas market downtown is a fun option while it's still around if you can brave the cold.

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Camelbreath18 t1_j1b8fbh wrote

Granos in Hampden good food, good service and low key

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Nintendoholic t1_j1dhbi6 wrote

Do not take someone to a 2-3 hour commitment for a first date

Coffee shop or a bar or a museum for a first meeting. One hour. If it's good, keep going. If it's not, you're not committed to hitting balls off a tee to the tune of $50/hr with someone you're not into

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Valuable-Island3015 t1_j1c1zgs wrote

Popeyes. If the night is still young take her to Dave n busters

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turtlintime t1_j1ezhq8 wrote

Give her 3 options and let her choose:

-Something traditional (bar, coffee, etc)

-Something quirky/fun (thrifting, arcade, museum)

-Something lowkey (park date, dinner at home)

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mrcrowface3421 t1_j1akli0 wrote

The movie theater opening back up at harbor east you could try that and a good ramen spot downtown

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Different-Show-3951 t1_j1cf75x wrote

i greatly suggest something fun both of you haven't really done before, it allows you to learn together while also experiencing a sense of discovery; which can also serve as an ice breaker a bit, takes the awkwardness of finding things to talk about. It also makes her think of you as more of a fun guy and care free per se.

The actual thing doesn't matter much just that its more of a shared experience. but Ice skating and maybe some food if things are going well would be a great date this time of year.

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K_N0RRIS t1_j1dllrh wrote

Do not do dave and busters for a first date. Too loud, too many kids.

My suggestion? Take her out somewhere where she can stay warm, have an engaging convo with you, and have some private time. I'd recommend you take her to Avenue Kitchen and Bar in Hampden.

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NoSleep7482 t1_j1dvkue wrote

Buy a bouncy house and have light drinks and bounce around with some nice music, and then go horseback riding down a scenic road populated with nice vegetation and beautiful flowers

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wuguwa t1_j1aed05 wrote

The Avenue in White Marsh is made for dates. Movie theater, restaurants, ice rink right now, and it’s nice just to walk around in too.

Just a thought.

Edit: Apparently this was not a good suggestion. Anyone care to say why rather than just downvoting me?

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boarbar t1_j1dz1qf wrote

It’s not in Baltimore would be my guess.

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wuguwa t1_j1dzgc8 wrote

Maybe. I just assume Baltimore and surrounding areas are implied especially when we get posts about stuff in the county all the time.

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GingerMan027 t1_j1adoj6 wrote

Dinner and a movie is always good. If you are a homebody, cook!

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