This is going to be fun

I'm on number 5 through this book in the last year. It is my favorite book on influencing behavior. I was reading it on my way to apply for jobs and on my way back. I've read almost 100 books in the last year, many of them relating to this topic.

If you had read it, and had the capability to see things outside of black-and-white, all-or-nothing thinking(from: Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy"), you wouldn't tell someone else how to act based on someone else's brief, not-inclusive, subjective interpretation of what that book delivers.

Why not quote the book yourself?

Because I've read books on influence, I am using very specific words and phrasing to invoke your emotional response. But, what do I know, huh? I'm not using tactical empathy (Christopher Voss from "Never Split the Difference") nor am i going to use the skills covered in two books I have by Jim Camp. because I like a good fight. Reddit is full of defensive people also looking for a fight. So, bring it. Lol

Maybe you should check my comment history to see how I'm doing at applying some of these principles. People are complicated and flawed. But, you seem to be perfect, so I'd love for you to guide me through life. Getting defensive because I'm honoring the book based on my knowledge and experience is...? Sad. But, that's my faulty perspective, of course.

I just wanted to thank you for violating the rules of a book you've never read, by judging someone you don't know for not adhering to the principles therein 100% - on a reddit forum no less. If you studied neuroscience and psychology, you would know that the brain is elastic and it changes based on your experiences and what you read and do (see: "Rewire Your Anxious Brain" by Catherine Pittman PhD and Elizabeth Karle). So, the more work you put in to change, the more likely you are to change. I'm doing the work, are you? See also: books by Adam Grant, Malcolm Gladwell, Marcus Aurelius, Ryan Holiday, Benjamin Franklin, Abraham Lincoln, and more.

People who were abused aren't skilled at making friends and influencing people. I had to spend years learning. We are all on our own journey, eh?

And I am not here to sell anyone or tell others how to live. I'm here to speak to something i have in-depth knowledge of, and because you don't have it, you chose to get defensive rather than walk away from a conversation you don't belong in.

That's my career specialty - influencing people - not my hobby. Big difference. I hate sales, but it's what I've done well in a variety of settings and industries. Books like this are the reason for my success. Before them, I was not functional in a social environment. I still am not in many ways.

My above comment is for the people who attacked me and then deleted their comments. Oh, and those who downvoted me :)