tommy_the_bat OP t1_jeeo6bl wrote on March 31, 2023 at 1:50 PM

Reply to comment by twenty-six-sixty-six in I love this sub by tommy_the_bat

That's not what abrasive means lmao

twenty-six-sixty-six t1_jeeom7r wrote on March 31, 2023 at 1:53 PM

the definition i'm using means to showing little regard for the opinions of others

i see no point in showing regard for an opinion i disagree with, and i don't expect other people to show regard for my opinion, but people here seem to want a lame kumbaya prayer circle where we all talk about how every writer is equally good, it's just a matter of opinion. nothing could be more boring

tommy_the_bat OP t1_jeerkog wrote on March 31, 2023 at 2:14 PM

Why would anyone enter any conversation with someone who, right off the bat, says they have 'little regard for the opinions of others'? That's just deranged. You don't have to be an asshole to have a good conversation.

I never understood people who enjoy arguments rather than a simple disagreements. Just talk to people like you would in real life. So yea I guess that's what I mean by getting bored by those conversations. Like just scream at a wall or cry in a pillow if you want to get emotional.

Character_Vapor t1_jegn5gw wrote on March 31, 2023 at 9:41 PM

>I never understood people who enjoy arguments rather than a simple disagreements

I mean, it all depends on context, but I got in a debate about Thomas Pynchon with a friend of mine last week at a bar that culminated in him raising his voice over the table and telling the rest of the group that I was an "odious motherfucker". Those kinds of heated debates about art are way more enjoyable than worrying about making sure everyone feels validated all the time.

Yelling and arguing about your opinion (if not literally, then in spirit) about a piece of art is a great time, as long as everyone is secure enough to know that saying someone's opinion is "bad" or "tragic" or "the worst thing I've ever heard" does not mean you think those things about them as a person.

Give me some Balzac, Lost Illusions-level shit-slinging about books! Tell someone they should have been sent to the guillotine for not liking Emile Zola. Tell someone they have an unhealthy fixation on 19th Century fuckboys after they tell you they love Heathcliff in Wuthering Heights. Tell someone they should be tried at The Hague for not having read Toni Morrison. It's more fun that way.

Let’s bring this kind of Ebert energy back into arts discourse and maybe we can all start having a good time talking about this stuff again.

[deleted] t1_jees0ay wrote on March 31, 2023 at 2:17 PM

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tommy_the_bat OP t1_jeespdw wrote on March 31, 2023 at 2:22 PM

If only you cared about using capital letters as much as you cared about what people post in a sub you don't like.

twenty-six-sixty-six t1_jeesuio wrote on March 31, 2023 at 2:23 PM

i only capitalize words i find to be important

tommy_the_bat OP t1_jeesxpo wrote on March 31, 2023 at 2:23 PM

Good for you