Now that you've mentioned it. It really does sound better. Just swapping one word changes the impact of it onto the other person.

Btw for the third principle, I got a way to apply those techniques. Think of a friend or family member from whom you wanted something but couldn't get just because it was all "I want" and now think how could you have done it differently knowing the third principle.

And the next time you want something from your friends, just think how can I do this differently from "I want".

Thanks for your tip