I think you're trying to be kind to him, to see some redeeming feature. I'm afraid the author didn't have the same sympathy. I think he has more in common with an incel.

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I think he's drawn as selfish and when it comesto wanting to marry Elizabeth, more than a little entitled. It's a sign of Elizabeth's strength that she is able to say no, and you could say that, for her day and age she was spoilt by her father accepting her refusal and thus throwing away their home . It has to come across how desperate Charlotte had to be to choose him.