Disastrous_Use_7353 t1_irwmne3 wrote
I think I understand your point, but could it be that they’re just expressing a different outlook on trans experiences. As you state, the author is not a trans person, but I would think that they had conducted some kind of research before writing this text. Additionally, I’m not sure how something can be “well-written, but poorly worded.” Finally, doesn’t it seem a bit unfair to accuse an author who is actively trying to help trans people of transphobia? Can’t anyone just have a difference of opinion, even if we strongly disagree with said opinion? This type of thinking is exactly why skilled people are running from the non-profit sector. You try to help and invariably wind up painted as some kind of villain. It’s a wild world we call our home.
hayzulhay OP t1_irwo8rj wrote
It could well be that that's how she sees that trans experience, and I don't think she was being intentionally transphobic by any means. I think she had very good intentions with writing the book that I appreciate, although it might not have been clear in my review. All I'm trying to do is point out that the book spreads many ideas that - usually unintentionally - harm the trans community. People may relate to points that I don't, even points that I spoke against in my review, and that's completely valid. I don't think the author's transphobia was malicious or intentional, just misinformed, and I think the misinformation is important to point out.
FuckTerfsAndFascists t1_iryuvyi wrote
You should post this in r/lgbt
I honestly think you'll get a much more nuanced response there than here.
Edit: I say as a member. I meant it like, come talk about it with your peers, you'll get better responses than the random assortment of people who have and haven't read the book on here. Not like go away. Lol. Sorry just realized how this comment might sound.
mongreldogchild t1_irzq0zn wrote
Agreed. The majority of reddit is going to be represented by cis het men (as women are underrepresented as a whole and queer people are a much smaller population) whose opinions on this topic aren't really going to be that helpful or nuanced (as a generality). A conversation is probably going to be very unproductive when a baseline of understanding isn't necessarily going to be there.
mongreldogchild t1_irzprd9 wrote
>Finally, doesn’t it seem a bit unfair to accuse an author who is actively trying to help trans people of transphobia? Can’t anyone just have a difference of opinion, even if we strongly disagree with said opinion? This type of thinking is exactly why skilled people are running from the non-profit sector. You try to help and invariably wind up painted as some kind of villain. It’s a wild world we call our home.
I can't speak for the text or the author here as I've never read it, but I think this is simplifying things a bit too much. Is it unfair? Maybe. It's also unfair to be subjected to transphobia. The idea of intent versus actual impact is kind of important in these topics. You can have good intentions and cause a lot of harm. Let's also not dismiss that the non-profit sector is diminishing because society as a whole doesn't care about it if it doesn't affect them and many countries are stumbling into capitalist hellscapes. Putting that on one trans person's outlook of being represented is silly.
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