Submitted by a_human_21 t3_zziea4 in books
I am not sure if I get the point behind these books or not, but a lot of messages in these books usually advocate creating your own world, avoiding toxic people and surround yourself by what you like.
But when you start dealing with real life and try to apply the concepts of these book to it;
Maybe like meeting one of your friends that you start recoginizing they have a bad habit and so you start limit talking to that person. But what more interesting is that person could be one of your family members, will you also start ignoring them to go spend better time with your friends ?
So am I the only one who feel that way ? Because it seems that these books teach avoidance rather than handling these situations
rivvn t1_j2bxisg wrote
I feel like a lot of these self help books are written for people who have next to no self esteem. If that's the case, straight up cutting down the amount of time you spend with toxic people to build up your self esteem a bit is a good move.
But when you have more self esteem, it doesn't have to be all or nothing. You can set healthy boundaries, and talk to people who are not necessarily toxic, but just have bad habits.