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Choice_Mistake759 t1_j4q85nq wrote

>On the other hand, I cannot relate to female characters at all, and I often find their decisions and thoughts hard to understand. Somehow, I find male characters way more relatable and both of my favorite books have zero female characters in them. Can anyone relate?

I do not like particularly a lot of romance, rom-com heroines. But not liking to read about women characters or books written by women, it is a bias worth examining. Women are 50% of the world, and I think anybody of any gender who disclaims reading about, or things written by 50% one of the genders (whether their own or the other, or any variant) is missing voices, experiences.

And you know the meme "a girl not like other girls?" (Sadly there are quite a bit of girls not like other girls, not that they hang together), if that is your thing it is, but it is a quite narrow place to be.

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toadexplosion t1_j4qog9i wrote

>t is a bias worth examining

Literally what this post is doing

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out_cyder OP t1_j4qnr7j wrote

I am not saying I don’t read books by female authors. I am just saying I prefer books written from a male point of view. This doesn’t mean I think I am “not like other girls”. I just tend to relate to fictional men more than I relate to fictional women.

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Choice_Mistake759 t1_j4qvv7o wrote

>I just tend to relate to fictional men more than I relate to fictional women.

Well, there is always Murderbot, and Ancillary Justice. And a few others like Iain Banks 's minds (and a few surprise ones).

>This doesn’t mean I think I am “not like other girls”. I just tend to relate to fictional men more than I relate to fictional women.

That is worth examining, like I said before. Why? And you do not have to tell us the whys, or even know it right now, I am just trying to validate you are very right to question it and think about the whys. And questions, not for you to answer, but just to think about:

Does it make a difference in which way? They are more mysterious? Do they do more interesting things? Do you give them a free pass if they act in selfish ways? And maybe more importantly, are you giving also men in real life more of an excuse, find them more interesting, are "boys going to be boys" or "how great that father is at babysitting his children" and stuff like that? Just think about it.

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angryechoesbeware t1_j4rc8jy wrote

I don't know. 99% of characters who end up being my favorite are male, but that doesn't mean I have some internalized "not like other girls" complex, I'm just really straight.

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Choice_Mistake759 t1_j4ri5ht wrote

> I'm just really straight.

English is not my native language, not sure I understood. You relate more to main male characters because you are attracted to males and not to women? Even in horror books, not even romance novels? You only enjoy reading about main POVS characters you would be attracted to?

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angryechoesbeware t1_j4seorr wrote

I didn't really word it right lol. My situation is different from OP's, I'm more talking about my favorite characters from each piece of fiction I read being male, not necessarily the main POV characters. My point was I'm just more drawn to them and it doesn't mean I have internalized misogyny or anything like that, so the same might apply for OP? Or not, I don't know.

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Choice_Mistake759 t1_j4u6pxf wrote

I just did not understand the comment of you "I'm just really straight." and how that related to "favorite characters from each piece of fiction I read being male".

But sure, you can like whatever you like and do not need my permission or anybody's really. But it is interesting to analyze this.

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angryechoesbeware t1_j4ve0sl wrote

I mean just because I tend to be more drawn to male characters doesn't necessarily mean I have some deep thing against women inside.

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Choice_Mistake759 t1_j4vglhh wrote

I did not say you had. I just did not understood the "I'm just really straight." in relation to be drawn to male characters. I still do not, but whatever.

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angryechoesbeware t1_j4vhbt6 wrote

Sorry, I know you didn't. But yes, thats why I'm drawn to them. I just find them interesting and all that.

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