Do you like female authors and protagonists better when the author and character genders are aligned? (Female author + female protagonists)

Male authors are often critiqued for writing thin, or unrealistic female characters in their novels because of a lack of shared experience. Is the same true of Female authors writing male characters? Maybe, when you select a book with a male author and a female protagonist, you're disappointed by an unrelatable female lead. And when you select a book by a female author, with a male protagonist you're disappointed by that writing as well?

Maybe you're subconsciously preselecting your way into disappointment. Just a thought.