Neat-Cold-7235 t1_j69di4m wrote
That book hurt so bad because it reminded me of my dad and I didn’t want to think about that. It made me realize that someone treating you good after treating you like shit isn’t a good relationship to be in. When the dad stole all the money they were saving for NY I literally threw the book across the room.
Avaunt OP t1_j69km3i wrote
I had a feeling it was coming from the moment she mentioned buying it. I almost thought they were in the clear. Then the shoe dropped. The dads reaction to being called out…the gall. Especially after going on a multiple day binge. I was pacing in my living room coming up with ways to chew him out. (Not that it would have helped anything.)
It’s really hard to juxtapose that man with the one who gave her 1k to help with college. I do think he loved his family. He just didn’t have the capacity to be a decent human being the rest of the time.
Neat-Cold-7235 t1_j69tktw wrote
Exactly that’s what hurt is knowing he wanted to be a good dad but he couldn’t. And I know he had childhood trauma and even tho he was a better dad then his mom was to him, I also know that generational trauma is hard to break because that’s all he knows. He wanted to be a good dad but didn’t know how to and felt like he needed alcohol probably to cover up the childhood PTSD. The mom on the other hand I feel like had narcissistic personality disorder and couldn’t give a shit about her kids or their well being.
Avaunt OP t1_j6a1hn5 wrote
Yeah. I don’t understand the mom at all. Narcissism, bipolar, and hoarding disorders maybe? The dad have a lot of humanity along with the demons of addiction. The mom, on the other hand, was constantly either self absorbed or completely off the wall.
MelaphantMorada t1_j6be05b wrote
I wonder since this is from the author’s perspective that perhaps if she wasn’t as close to her mom as she was to her father (although both were pretty bad parents) that maybe that’s why she doesn’t come off as fully fleshed out as the dad where we see both the good and the bad and could almost empathize with him despite the terrible behavior
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