I think at a certain point it’s good to tell your kid or at least work on ways to build routines habbits for them to succeed. I was always better when i had structure. Always remember, adhd brains are just wired different doesn’t mean we are doomed at life.

I was good at school because i actually enjoyed it. With adhd you prioritize things that made you feel good. We are super highly emotional and gravitate towards things that make us feel good now which is why we constantly procrastinate/put things off towards later and really only do things we don’t like when we feel some sort of strong emotion attached to it.

I was a manager at a very big finance firm. One of my friends who has adhd is a very successful lawyer. Learning about the strengths/pitfalls of adhd will definitely help set your kid up for a brighter future if you deal with it now rather than later.

Just remember pills may help, but you need to learn the skills and i wish i learned them when i was in my teens rather than my 30s if that helps

Would suggest: your brains not broken by Tamara Ross. Will help you understand what it’s like to live with an adhd brain and go through some really good ways to deal with it. Can help you implement some good routines for your kids