I lived w my parents in Boston suburbs for awhile while working in the city, it was about 80 minutes door to door either by driving or commuter rail. Then I moved to Somerville, just 6 miles from my job downtown. Believe it or not, my commute using the T was about 50-60 minutes. Later I moved to Melrose, a town much closer to Boston than my parents town, and considered highly desirable by commuters, but further away than Somerville, and the commute was about 60 or 70 minutes (via bus and subway). After that I bought a house one town over from where my parents live, due to cost reasons, and bc fuck it, my commutes never felt super different even when I was theoretically living considerably closer to work as the crow flies, for me it didn't radically improve my quality of life to live considerably closer.