Submitted by Winter_Technology_66 t3_z4tt3b in boston
trimtab28 t1_iy1ul62 wrote
Reply to comment by VeterinarianRich5986 in Dating in Boston by Winter_Technology_66
Really? Tbh, I came here from NYC and found Boston's dating scene to be way easier when I was single. Here most women I was meeting were just going for advanced degrees at the local universities or professionals and just swamped with whatever they were working towards. Could come off cold because of that, but not in a nasty way- just seemed pretty much every woman was insanely busy with her career or educational goals, and getting in a relationship was something they wanted but also didn't feel they could dedicate all their time to. On the flip side, back in NYC my options were either people who grew up outside the city coming to Manhattan or Brooklyn that no matter how they looked seemed to think they were worthy of a male model with a Wall St. exec salary, or in the outer boroughs where I was from just girls from the various ethnic enclaves looking for someone whom their parents would like so they could buy a house two blocks away from them before their 30s.
For what it's worth, both NYC and Boston have a gender imbalance with more women than men. Boston is worse though- figuring that's exacerbated by how heavily educated the population is- figure BU alone is 60% women. Whether or not women come off as if it's a tighter market for them is another story. But personally, I never found it all that tough here, particularly as a guy that was going for a professional degree and with career ambitions before I met my girlfriend. Seemed like women were generally just thrilled if you would go to museums with them or could hold an articulate conversation
VeterinarianRich5986 t1_iy90hmz wrote
Huh, that’s interesting. I felt that if you’re NOT a (white) biotech professional who went to Harvard, then you’re SOL with dating in Boston.
I went on maybe 3-4 first dates a year in Boston. I had an easier time in nyc even during the pandemic and actually managed to land a long-term relationship here.
trimtab28 t1_iyaphl4 wrote
Well, I'm a short white guy who neither went to Harvard nor is a biotech professional. And really didn't have any shortage of dating opportunities back when I was single. As I said, most women I met were just career oriented and things wouldn't pan out because they were super focused on whatever life goal they were working towards. Wasn't an issue of the size of my bankbook or degree- seemed they just cared that I was focused professionally and reasonably intelligent.
By contrast in NYC local women in the boroughs were down to earth and homely, but the transplants there to "make it" seemed to be super status conscious and obsessed with someone to make their friends on social media jealous
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