Submitted by uternalfootball t3_zwhp92 in boston
Hi r/boston, I'm planning on proposing to my girlfriend of 7 years today at the winter market in the seaport, but a friend who was going to come and video it dropped out at the last second. Any ideas on how I can capture the moment?
Edit: thank you to everyone for your very kind responses! I've got something worked out and will update in a bit!
Not only are you extremely kind to offer, but you are also very brave for admitting on this sub that you live in the seaport!
Not as brave as admitting you have a cow fetish. Bravo! Courage!
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I’m not from the area and am considering moving to the Seaport…not trying to sound ignorant but is that a bad thing to admit?
Let's just say, I don't know a single person in my social circles who could afford to live in the Seaport. And I'm supposedly well off. So yeah, it's not a bad thing, but it is kind of brave admitting you're wealthy to a sub where every other post is someone crying that their landlord is raising the rent and they'll have to move to Fitchburg or something. The other thing is that the Seaport is an area with no soul. Not really a neighborhood. Just luxury condos and trendy restaurants.
What would give the neighborhood “soul”? A school? No children live in Seaport. Historical landmarks? It was a giant parking lot 15 years ago. The city and partnering developers were never going build Beacon Hill brownstones or an affordable neighborhood like Brighton or Alston. Reddit needs to accept Seaport for what it is and be happy we have something that isn’t a dumping ground for Whitey anymore.
At least there's finally a Trader Joe's. Developers were so greedy that they just built luxury condos after luxury condos without any regard for the basic things people need when they actually live somewhere: a grocery store, dry cleaners, CVS, etc. The neglect of simple conveniences or the assumption that these people are so wealthy, they can just have anything they need delivered, is what I mean. A neighborhood is more than just condos and restaurants.
Totally agree. Even some unique sandwich shops or delis (can be fancy idc) just to break it up a bit would go a long way.
I say I don't know anyone who lives there but I actually did up until about four years ago. He finally moved when they wanted to practically double his rent. He said his biggest complaint was no grocery store. He worked downtown and had to get all of his groceries from the Roche Bros. after work and bring them home. The Trader Joe's came in around the same time he moved out.
on reddit yeah not in real life tho. my brother lives in the seaport and absolutely loves it. plus if you wear boat shoes and golf we already know you live there anyways
seaport is a fantastic place to live if you can afford it! seaport has lots of restaurants, near-weekly activities planned by the neighborhood committee of Seaport (some exclusively for residents), museums, and the harbor walk is beautiful at any time of day. it comes down to what you value in an area. my wife is an example - she lived in other nice modern apartments in diff greater boston areas but the most important thing to her was having a well-managed apartment, a concierge/manned front desk for packages/deliveries, and her gym nearby. seaport checked all the boxes.
you can argue character, charm, soul, etc. but at the end of the day it comes down to what you want. very obviously this neighborhood doesn’t suck or else people wouldn’t keep coming to it.
I work in seaport and it’s dead quiet today. Happy to help if you still need
If no other friends are available, I suggest asking a staff member at Snowport. There’s usually a person or two at the info booth and they’re typically friendly! Good luck!
Thanks for the advice! This is probably what I'll end up doing
I HAVE A BOOTH THERE I WILL DO IT!!!!!! Omg message me
damn, some of the people here are so rude lol i mean why wouldn't you want to capture your proposal on video? my fiancé and i pretty much blacked out during his proposal and i truly love watching the video a friend took of us because we wouldn't have remembered a thing otherwise 😂
i unfortunately am not free today, so sorry for being unhelpful on that front, but maybe ask someone to "take a photo" of you guys but keep the video recording, and then propose? though you'd need to somehow let the person know that you want a video so they don't end up stopping the video recording to take a picture, just not sure you can do that sneakily enough haha
I know right! Getting a lot of comments about how wanting to record it is ridiculous 😂
Please don't put that on a random person without their buy-in, especially if the SO freaks out (in a good way or bad way - Idk if this couple has discussed public proposals but I know some people don't like them). That's a lot to put on a random stranger trying to enjoy their own evening.
That’s why you can just say no thanks
I prefer "fuck off" lol
When I proposed to my girlfriend (wife), I set up a tripod and pretended I was taking a picture of us but actually took a video. It worked out great. If you can’t find someone to do it, that might be an option
That's a good idea! But I don't own a tripod and it would be so, sooo obvious.
I used hers. It was just a little thing for holding her phone. But yeah, if neither of you have one, it will be very obvious to whip one out.
OP someone above said they’re a photographer. Go that route!
Have the photographer be there pretending to do tourist shots and just be asking you two if you want a picture for his travel instagram. Meanwhile he does his thing
People here are so bitter. Best of luck and love to you both!
If it’s not too late, my partner is a videographer and photographer and he’s available!
OP, I can't help but I want to say that it sounds like a lovely idea, and I wish you all the happiness in the world!
Kinda late but I also know someone who works in snowport, let me know if you need the help and good luck!
What time is the proposal? I agree on asking someone working there if you can.
I’m a professional filmmaker, and I would stop by and do it just as a favor to a stranger… But my girlfriend has Covid so I’m locked in! Best of luck.
Could be funny to just hand the phone to a stranger so that everybody has caught by surprise
Haha yeah that's basically what I'm trying to avoid. Would be a wild position to put an unsuspecting passerby in
A loooottta pressure for them not to f it up hah
I would say walk around until you see people taking a photo of some thing. then just put it on video and say “excuse me, I’m sorry can you please take a photo of us?”
Just here to say congrats! I put the video of my proposal into a digital frame (I used infinite objects) and it’s the best memory and amazing to have on our mantle
Don’t listen to any negativity on this sub. I love your idea and hope you get a recording of this special moment. I have a video of when my husband proposed to me and I LOVE watching it! Good luck OP!
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Good luck
L o l people are so unnecessarily and hilariously judgmental, and way more cringey than the dude proposing. Wanting and getting a video of that moment is…normal? (at least they’re all getting downvoted). Good luck.
I hope you find someone to help! However, my wife and I still remember everything about that moment and we didn’t have a video. Good luck with the future!
About time.
Congratulations and have a lovely New Year. Make sure to come back to the r/EngagementRings reddit and show off your happiness and ring! Good luck.
Im sure you could ask a stranger to do it for you
Just a thought.... You may want to pick something more permanent. Something that'll likely still be there in 10, 15 years.
You should call your lawyer. That would be a good icebreaker and will establish a rapport for later.
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Just propose man. Have someone on the street take a pic of you guys after she says yes. This is not complicated.
Call another friend to do it.
Why do you need a video?
To make a sandwich with /s
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At snow port? That’s kinda lame
Why people feel the need to shit on others is beyond me.
If you don't like this person's plans, shut the fuck up. They aren't proposing to you.
LoL as we debate this in a public forum.
Not that this deserves a reply, but we went to the Snowport for our first anniversary and it has a lot of sentimental value to us
Don’t listen to these people. Happy for you and hoping it goes well!
Did OP ask?
you're kinda lame for thinking this is kinda lame
You think a Holiday little market with all Boston-based businesses is lame? Do you suggest he proposes at the mall? Perhaps Kohl’s? Or maybe Chick-fil-A!!! Yay capitalism!
Have you been to snowport? It is kinda lame.
Yeah I own a store there. Thanks.
Doesn't matter
Fuck off.
What’s lame about snowport?
What if I told you, you don’t necessarily need a video of all of your deepest and most personal memories.
Enjoy the moment.
Why can’t they do both?
They can! I was offering an alternative to this posts predicament.
I wouldnt stress about it. As someone who has neither a video of the engagement NOR the wedding, I can safely say I dont miss either of them.
Nah the response was rude
I find the expectations to be more rude.
What expectations? What are you talking about? How does this have anything to do with the post?
Allot of people feel like they need to record these moments. You don’t! We haven’t been for thousands of years actually.
But this person wants to… feels like you are using this post to start blabbing about your opinions on wedding stuff in general and it’s weird
LoL i made one comment suggesting you can live without it if you cant set it up.
All the other comments and opinions are answering comments. To be honest, I was all set with the one comment till you needed clarifications of your own.
It's just kinda weird to respond at all to a post when your answer is that it shouldn't exist in the first place lol.
"Hey everyone, where can I get a good pizza?"
"You know, you actually don't even need to eat pizza."
Oh. Thanks....
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Most people try to get photos of this
Cool. Selfie. Done. Back to our moment.
Wow you’re so right. Everyone else is an idiot except for you.
All those people I see cherishing their wedding or engagement photos are just mindless social media zombies compared to those living in the real world.
Your really mad I proposed an alternative huh?
You didn't propose anything, you attacked someone wanting to do something special.
Don’t bother feeding trolls
You're a weirdo not gonna lie. We wouldn't even remember our proposal if not for it being recorded. The moment goes so fast you essentially black out with all the emotions going on. Same with wedding. Mind was all day and yet it felt like 1 hour... You against wedding photography also, or you just jealous?
You’re so smart!
I honestly feel that way. Both our engagement and our wedding were personal, just between my wife and myself. It cost next to nothing amd we took a killer vacation afterwards and used the money we would have spent to down pay on our home.
We feel very smart and enjoy the memories immensely. Though to be fair, we did have a photographer for exactly 2 hour for the wedding ceremony.
People put allot into weddings largely to meet expectations set by media or family.
Do what YOU need to make it special, not what others need. If you need a video, go get it. We didnt.
>Do what YOU need to make it special, not what others need. If you need a video, go get it. We didnt.
Then what's with the rudeness??? Let them do what they want without preaching about how you disagree.
What a lovely person you seem to be.
careful going outside with that thin skin friend. The wind might take you in two.
Lol you're the one complaining here my dude
I honestly dont think you know what a complaint is.
I’m not reading all that lmao but you seem insufferable 🥱
Ohh i totally am.
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But, but the Gram & FB!
No, no, no, you think people record the most important moments of their life for Facebook and Instagram? Obviously, you have never seen a Hallmark Christmas movie. This is for the emotional montage of their beautiful life together.
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OP my husband and I live in the Seaport area we are happy to help out if you are still in need!