Submitted by blueboy781 t3_10lx5fe in boston

Where or how can you meet other gay men? Grindr has tons of people but they all seem like flakes and no replies. Interested in dating rather than hookups but not opposed to an occasional hookup but wanted to see what other options might be out there.

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t_hr t1_j5zle8g wrote

How old are you?

Club Cafe is gay. Queereoke at the Midway is very queer but tends to be a lot of AFAB people. Both pretty young scenes. This Sunday in JP there's a meeting of the Cambridge Men's Group (https://www.meetup.com/cambridgemen/events/289639090/) presumably a bit of an older crowd. There are also a few "OUT at Time Out" events coming up, just search gay men's Boston on meetup and you'll find some stuff.

If you already have good hobbies for meetup groups (frisbee, dog groups, board games, etc) just go to the things you enjoy. Boston is a pretty gay place, usually there will be another gay guy in the group and depending on how good your 'dar is you can just chat them up.

Uninstall grindr. Try Hinge, tends to be a bit more relationship oriented. Bumble could also work. If you're kinky, might even want to give AFF/Fet a try.

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wwoliver04 t1_j5zx6ce wrote

Everyone hates on it but tinder is great for making friends too, you get out of it what you put into it. Also second for Club Café, they do different theme nights and usually bring in a range of different crowds

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alphacreed1983 t1_j5zvgln wrote

Have you tried walking that fucking duck?

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twowrist t1_j5zmtln wrote

I don’t know what it’s like post covid, but there’s the Boston Gender Free Contra Dance. In the past it’s mostly been 30 and up but occasionally 20 somethings.

They’re somewhat strict about precautions because the dancing is energetic, and hence rapid breathing plus there are a few regular seniors who need to play it safe.

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rocco45 t1_j60yc8m wrote

Agree with blend and dbar being the most popular places currently. Both have club and non club nights. Legacy and CC if you want a club vibe. If you wanna just meet other guys look into joining a sports league. Stonewall sports and pride sports are the 2 big ones. Both have competitive and non competitive leagues. I have found most guys meet through sports here.

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ftmthrow t1_j5zswu0 wrote

Apps - Grindr + Scruff (hookup-focused but still possible to see where it goes), Tinder, Hinge, Bumble.

Places - Club Cafe, Legacy, The Trophy Room, Cathedral Station, Alley Bar.

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RogueInteger t1_j6081dz wrote

Dorchester. Dbar and blend are probably the most popular.

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