Trpdoc t1_j67rtt2 wrote on January 28, 2023 at 9:22 AM

Reply to comment by NEDsaidIt in 8-month-old baby injured in Duxbury family tragedy dies, DA says by Jezebels_lipstick

Can be super tough to bell like not step out for a few minutes maybe grocery running low, maybe it’s a quick work call etc who knows. Always easier for people without kids to be like why they leave her alone!

NEDsaidIt t1_j68ux23 wrote on January 28, 2023 at 4:06 PM

If you need groceries, take the kids. We have paid family leave, take it! I have 3 kids and I’m disabled and have literally faced this exact scenario where I couldn’t be left alone with my own kids because I was too sick. I wasn’t a danger in the same way I just couldn’t care for them. It’s extremely hard. But it’s not impossible. In this scenario there is no way I would have gone out for pizza like he did. And no way my husband would have. I’m not blaming him, he will live with the guilt forever- but I think this is where the empathy comes from. She was doing what we expect people to do- seek help and follow the plan. What else could she do?

Trpdoc t1_j6997l0 wrote on January 28, 2023 at 5:43 PM

So when does that period of unsafe end? And what are you on about paid family leave for 8 months lol.

NEDsaidIt t1_j69ddw5 wrote on January 28, 2023 at 6:11 PM

When a doctor says she is safe. I’m sure they had childcare because she was working at some points so you wouldn’t need full time leave.

Trpdoc t1_j69hed5 wrote on January 28, 2023 at 6:38 PM

Doctor doesn’t know for sure either

CaptainWollaston t1_j6hsp0l wrote on January 30, 2023 at 12:50 PM

So the husband job now is to protect the kids from his wife? If that's the case she should have been locked up. You really seem to be putting this on him, and it's not. She did the evil thing, not him. I'm sure he's going to think about it the rest of his life, but there's really nothing he could have done to prevent it. Is he supposed to lock her in her room while he takes a shower? Make her come into the bathroom and sit there when he takes a shit?

directtodvd420 t1_j6fsb8c wrote on January 30, 2023 at 12:47 AM

PFML gives a max 26 weeks per year. That’s 6.5 months. Baby was 8 months old. Even if this family did qualify for and take the max, which is unlikely, that’s 1.5 months of unassisted anguish.