At the end of the day, it all will have to come to your references. I own both consoles and they are both very much worth every penny. Which platforms are your friend playing, or most of them are playing on? It can be a deciding factor for you.

As for how they're worth, the xbox series x/s are better in terms of value, they give you free cloud save, gamepass is a cheap way of getting you hands on a big library of games including some big AAA titles for only 16$/month. Despite some others may say about the series S tho, it is actually a blast when I had it (I switched to the X since I have lots of game discs). A lot of games can be played 60fps without worries and most of the new games are being released with the S optimized fpr 60fps, while the older games are being/already remastered/optimized for 60fps as well. With the price of 300$us with only 1080p and no 4k, it is hard to ignore if you have no problem with being fully digital. The X at 600$us, can do all the S can and then add in 4k 60fps, if you own a 4k tv/monitor, it would be super awsome to buy the X.

Ps5 both digital and physical can handle 4k, 60fps just fine with a difference of 100$us between the two. But they don't offer free cloud save, the feature is locked behind their subscription service, in which if you pay, you can also access a more variety of stuffs like their equivelent version of gamepass, game demos (for a higher price level of course). Haptic feedback on their controller is also a very nice feature, it provides some addition realistic feeling into your game, but most of the time I am to focus on the game than the feeling of the trigger on my hand.