I have a ps5 and my roommate has a xsx and we switch consols from time to time to be able to catch up with exclusives.

I just feel more comfortable with Xbox controller on long gaming sessions but if you don't have that time dualsense will give you an amazing experience.

PlayStation subscription is good for catching up with old exclusives but not new ones. Xbox subscription is good for playing current games and also current exclusives with time.

Also with xsx you can play almost any game you mentioned that you fond of. I recently played Conker's Bad Fur Day and Castlevania Lords of Shadow on my friends Xbox for example.

One thing PS5 has is it's exclusives which are really making everyone's choice harder like you noted on your post. Last of Us, Returnal, Spiderman, God of War, Ghost of Tsushima, Death Stranding, Sifu etc.

From what you said about yourself I think Xbox would be a great choice for you. But if you're still thinking about other exclusives that I haven't mentioned in the last paragraph go for PlayStation. Gaming is all about enjoying ourselves. I think either way your choice would be the right choice. Have fun friend.