You say you can't side with either point of view then immediately pick a side.

And life is nothing but middles. When you're grown enough to consider multiple equally valid perspectives, you can see how something that seems good to one is a vile evil to another. There are universal truths, like "don't kill anyone unless there's absolutely no choice in self-defense," but those principles are not sentient beings. They're human notions.

It's the human brain that craves simple binaries, because/but that's not how life is.

Life is a gradient, a spectrum. Try and see more "colors," more variety and diversity, besides white and black. That's how the Egyptians and Babylonians saw things.