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BaguetteBlocker t1_jc1x9vu wrote

Reply to comment by Zenla in [OC] Results after a little over a month on Hinge (M/27) by elhospitaler

> you get so many matches that you start having to come up with crazy criteria to limit them

That's a completely self-imposed problem though, isn't it? Don't both people need to swipe right to match?

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IpsoKinetikon t1_jc23lw0 wrote

No, it stems from the imbalance in demographics. If a man and woman both swipe right on 100 people, she'll get a lot more matches than he will.

The only thing she can do differently is swipe right less, and then you're going to have guys complaining that they hardly ever get a match. They'll only be swiping on 9's and 10's. If your personality is doing all the heavy lifting, this would make dating sites unusable.

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Zenla t1_jc4bryp wrote

Yes, but if I swipe right on 100 people it doesn't mean I want 100 boyfriends or even 100 hundred dates, it's essentially just a "I think this person looks nice." If 15 of those people like me, great, I can come up with one or two dates to see if things work out based on our chat. If 80 people like me, well, that's too many people. A lot of guys swipe right on all girls, so some don't ever even message me, some just send hi, some just want casual dates, etc. But it's more options than any one girl can really ever deal with. Imagine if you went to a bar and 80 people asked you to dance.

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