Those are all going to be pretty small models (under 200M parameters), so what I said probably won't apply to you. Although, I would still recommend parallel training rather than trying to link them together (4 GPUs means you can run 4 experiments in parallel - or 8 if you double up on a single GPU).

Regarding RAM speed, it has an effect, but it probably won't be all that significant given your planned workload. I recently changed the memory on one of my nodes so that it could train GPT-J (reduced the RAM speed so that I could increase the capacity), the speed difference for other tasks is probably within 5%, which I don't think matters (when you expect to run month long experiments, an extra day is irrelevant).