Souls? No, it's just hard but fair. Learn attack patterns, stop spending your souls/echoes/runes/whatever on every attribute, git gud etc.

Competitive online games? Very different story. Anyone who claims to have never at least been tempted to break something is a liar, or has never really played anything competitively.

I'm not condoning it, but it happens. Imagine all the emotions of an athletic sport, only without the physical exhaustion acting as a counterbalance.