Submitted by Kawaimo t3_xwopj1 in jerseycity
5 years ago, there was this person with a box of candies outside of school. Oftentimes, they would call out to people, shake their hand, and say that they are either with the some unknown school trying to raise money for a basketball team or they need money for their 'daughters uniform' in exchange for candy.
I also saw some people do the same thing at the newport centre mall.
Some time at my university someone tried to do the same thing. It was like it was a script.
I typically ignore these, and yeah, maybe I was stupid for letting my curiosity get the better of me. So I decided to give him money. Like, three dollars to show that I'm sort of with him. And yeah, I know, that was not the smartest idea. I was going to ask him some questions after, but then he told me he needed change because I gave him three dollars. So, I just gave him some pocket change and told him not to worry about it.
Then he tells me if I could walk across the street with him to go to the bank so he could get change for me. Since there were a lot of people, and it didn't seem the likeliest that he would attack me (that question in of itself is suspicious), I decided that I would go the bank with him. He asked me some questions to be buddybuddy with me, and honestly if that isn't obviously suspicious i don't know what is.
Then, we enter the bank and I notice that he wanted me to go in first. Then I tell him to go first, and then he tells me that he needs a card to enter the bank, and then he realizes that you don't need a card.
We enter the bank, and then as soon as we enter I step aside to let him use the ATM. He then tells me to use MY card so he could get change for his daughter's uniform. But, wait a minute, I thought he was trying to get change from the bank, and I was going with him to get the change?
And THEN, he tells me that he didn't know how to use the atm because I was smart?
I then tried to explain to him that I didn't have a card. I tried to explain that I didn't even have a bank account that is connected to a card because I don't even have an ID.
He insisted on me putting MY card in the ATM. Then he tells me that I was "tricking him", while I was just asking questions because he kept telling me to use my card that honestly didn't even exist.
All I did was ask a question, trying to understand what was the underlying issue. He couldn't answer it. He was also getting mad, up in my face and frustrated because apparently I was wasting his time. The last question I asked, was "How do you know?" in response to his accusations that I was tricking him with questions. He then says "fuck this shit" and shows his true colors.
I get the sense that I was being gaslit here. But honestly, who the fuck are these people? I get the sense that they are trying to guilt-trip people by gaslighting them and taking their money, but I can't know that for sure. I'm positive you've seen these people at some point. I'm obviously going to ignore these people the next time.
WarrenBuffetsDriver t1_ir7wlyy wrote
There's no school association. Guys buy candy from BJ's using a shared membership and some of these guys still selling candy for their basketball team at "St. Anthony's" (which closed like a decade ago) are in their 30's.
No idea why you gave him a penny, let alone get dragged so hard here.