There's a similar post from another CA ex pat in r/hoboken. Maybe you two could connect. I moved to DC from Ireland in 2008, and from DC to JC in 2016. Both times I hated it at first and thought I had made a huge mistake. Winter in Jersey is not pretty and JSQ can be a bit urban in some areas. The only advice I can give is hang in there. It will get better. https://www.reddit.com/r/Hoboken/comments/yj98ep/how_do_you_stay_motivated_during_the_winter_months/