Submitted by XIFOD1M t3_yjje62 in jerseycity
Im from California originally but I went to school in Manhattan. I spent the whole time wanting to go home and I finally got to once I graduated. Then I started looking for jobs and the only really great opportunity I got was in NYC. Except it wasn’t really NYC, it was Jersey City, and even then it was a suburb of JC. All of this, I only found out after they offered me the job. I only recently signed a lease and I had a small freak out before I did; now I’m wishing I had trusted my gut. I just moved to my new apartment and I just hate every part of everything that’s happening. I don’t like my landlord or the vibe of the building. I don’t like the neighborhood (journal square) (which I picked specifically because I could be near the Path train to Manhattan). I don’t like having to commute to this job or learning how to street park my car. And worst of all, I was told that the Path train would put me “15 minutes from Manhattan” instead its closer to 45. So I moved somewhere on the expectation that I’d be coming BACK to somewhere that I knew and had friends. Instead, I’m in a new place and all alone.
I don’t want any of this to sound like im trashing Jersey City. Its just not what I expected. I wasn’t ready to feel this isolated and I can’t stop feeling like I’ve just made a colossal mistake.
mooseLimbsCatLicks t1_iuo9sl6 wrote
Sounds like you started from a place of negativity even in nyc.
My advice is lose the negativity, accept your situation, move forward with a good attitude of making the best of your situation.
Make some friends via the discord that the young ones like yourself use to meet other people. You are lonely, but thinking about how miserable you are all the time is just a self fulfilling prophecy. There are things you can change to make your situation better.
Someone link the discord here lol.