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heklakatla t1_iuemo6o wrote

Adult sports leagues. Volunteer groups. If you're religious, check in with your church/temple/mosque/etc.

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whale0532 t1_iuf3vqk wrote

BSSC has different sports leagues albeit a bit expensive. But once you meet a few people in sports you like, they can pull you into cheaper options.

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MediocreAd9430 t1_iuez8hu wrote

To heck w/ people, head out to the Quabbin & go fishing

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ArcticPorkchop t1_iuhkavs wrote

How's the fishing there this time of year?

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MediocreAd9430 t1_iui5p19 wrote

Can be quite good. Spring & fall best time to land a salmon or trout. Also some monster smallmouth in there

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ProfessionalWater480 t1_iuekwl2 wrote

If your girlfriend is hot we can hang out

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BF1shY t1_iueq64w wrote

Wow, rude! At least ask if his girlfriend is single first!

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BigToeJob t1_iuepb64 wrote

Check out meetup.com for activity based get togethers doing things that interest you

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Thomas_Perscors t1_iufm4vd wrote

I moved out to MA from Michigan 11 years ago. First thing I did was join a bunch of meet up groups. I also took some print making classes at the Cambridge Center for Adult Education. Took bike rides along the Minute Man trail to Concord. I’d say just have fun in the area. Go to museums, baseball games, etc. Eventually you’ll meet people who share your interests.

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galdapjunior t1_iuf0z4h wrote

In my experience you'll have ample opportunity to get to know your neighbors when the snow hits. Helping shovel, move a car out of a snowbank, sharing snow removal equipment and helping make sure eachothers spots don't get stolen are all things that become standard and are good opportunities to get to know your street better at least. You'll also learn which people around d you are total shits.

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coral15 t1_iufbu6p wrote

Best response. All the guys are out shoveling, helping each other out.

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Lasshandra2 t1_iuf6hsf wrote

Once the sn*w starts to fall, you can make friends with neighbors by helping with shoveling.

New Englanders seem standoffish until there’s something useful that needs doing. And they will get an idea of your character by how you share this community adversity.

Another thing to do is think about hobbies you enjoyed in the past and skills you have developed. Find others who do your hobbies. Teach others to do better at whatever you got good at.

When you take care of yourself, with discipline, you give off a vibe of positivity that draws people to you.

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vagrantsynergy t1_iufcgs6 wrote

How old are you? What are you into? I’ll always be someone’s friend.

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other_half_of_elvis t1_iuf5mrw wrote

if you are a bar and/or restaurant person, make one your regular place. Some bartenders are great at introducing people and just being great hosts.

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charons-voyage t1_iuez9kg wrote

Run clubs! Best time of year for running

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ScarletOK t1_iuemixp wrote

Boston folk are very active people. Think about what you like to do and then ask about organized activities around it. There's everything from amateur sport teams to mountaineering hiking clubs to young people's events at museums. Volunteering was one way I used to meet people--trail work, in my case, but there is probably some sort of volunteer gig around anything you're interested in.

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Mindless-Errors t1_iufghf3 wrote

Remember, we are not often friendly but we are always kind.

We don’t do a lot of superficial chit chat but we’ll always be there when you really need someone.

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yahabbibi t1_iuf320z wrote

From here and lived here most of my life and same. But lots of my friends have moved away due to COL. You just have to put yourself out there--sports, hobbies, etc. Good luck!

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enoel3244 t1_iuf3ovl wrote

I think it starts by knowing what kind of activities you guys are into. Are you looking for a friend group to share with your gf or is this a friend group for you to enjoy your own hobbies?

I’m a bit of a board game geek but I’ve always enjoyed finding small shops that have game nights. It can work for either situation and allows for socializing. But ultimately depends upon what you enjoy doing

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Pretty-Conclusion-20 t1_iufwzz1 wrote

Don’t be upset if it doesn’t happen too Spring it’s almost hibernation time

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Thomas_Perscors t1_iufmjpf wrote

Do not forget to always refer to Dunkin Donuts as Dunkies.

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ARoundForEveryone t1_iuftjee wrote

"Dunks" is quite acceptable too. "Dunkin Donuts" if you're not into the whole brevity thing, but never "Dunkins"

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NeetStreet_2 t1_iuhp7pz wrote

I just call it the crack house. Cumby's has way better coffee.

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Due-Designer4078 t1_iufs7ga wrote

Massachusetts people aren't always nice, but we're almost always kind.

I moved out here 30 years ago from MI. It took a while before I finally felt like I belong, now I can't imagine living any where else . Hang in there and don't give up!

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ItsHATTM t1_iui80ju wrote

What are your hobbies? Find groups or events tailored around that. I personally like beer and comics, this past summer I would frequent the Kilroy Sq Beer Garden in Quincy which was right across from New England Comics, so many people would stop and show interest in the comics I was reading and that’s how things start.

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hamderbeek t1_iufcmnn wrote

Having a girlfriend is not a lot to go on. What are you (and your SO's) interests? Do you want to establish a shared circle of social connections, or separate ones that occasionally overlap?

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dollface867 t1_iufdsfu wrote

Be patient and don't give up. We take a little while to defrost. You may have to make the first move, ie, invite a friend to do something first. People tend to keep a cool distance until you have proved you're not a flake.

Lot of suggestions here already about joining groups related to your interests, which is excellent advice. Try out a couple and see if anything sticks. Don't get discouraged if you don't find your gang immediately.

I'm assuming your gf is here too? That way you can kind of divide and conquer. Try to make friends both as a couple and as individuals. That's probably just emotionally healthy anyway, but might help in the friend dept as well.

Also--and not sure if others would agree--but the Seaport feels kind of transient to me. Like folks will live there for 2 or 3 years and then move on. If you're truly looking to find a community, it might also help to find "your spot" in a neighborhood that's more rooted. Like zero in on a relaxed pub or cafe and go a couple of times. Get to know the people there.

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janesearljones t1_iufip5x wrote

Start with an area and a hobby and go from there

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RunNPRun0316 t1_iufm098 wrote

Look up November Project on Social Media. It’s a no judgment workout social club. People of all ages and all fitness levels work out together and do many things other than workouts as well.

They meet at 6:30 am on Wednesdays at Harvard Stadium and Friday at the park on the summit of Summit Ave in Brookline.

Look for Paul and say hi.

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ghostbuckbbq t1_iufx72q wrote

Get into bbq ton of good groups on FB I could help you out with that! Goodluck cheers 🍻

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Smoaktreess t1_iugq7s7 wrote

Where are you from? Moved here from Michigan last year. Maybe we can get tg (I have a partner too so all 4 of us).

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agenteleven11 t1_iuh4d6a wrote

check out gloucester and rockport for a fun day trip

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Ellarael t1_iuhpohj wrote

Yeah what town? Drugs and trap houses might be your best bet depending on your answer, otherwise, sports ball if you're into that. If not you can always bitch about the weather to the person next to you anywhere. A standard ma bonding ritual.

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TopPalpitation4681 t1_iuepcp0 wrote

Depends what part of the state you're in. If it's western MA, you're fucked.

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TopPalpitation4681 t1_iuex3nj wrote

Not much to do around these parts.

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11BMasshole t1_iufgumb wrote

Plenty do in Hampden and Hampshire county. Which is where most people live in Western Mass. Franklin County is just meh. And the Berkshires are their own separate thing.

But there’s plenty of things and places to go to where people can meet friends. Western Mass isn’t exactly living in Northern Maine.

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Ineluki_742 t1_iufmmp1 wrote

As a resident of Franklin county I approve this message. Stay awayyyyyy its boring!

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Smoaktreess t1_iugqexx wrote

Lmao, I love western mass. Planning on Moving out there from the cape (bleh). I love going out there. Less traffic, more peaceful. Maybe it’s cause I’m from the Midwest but a few hour drive to get to Boston really isn’t bad to me. Plus proximity to other states. It’s super pretty as well!

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TopPalpitation4681 t1_iugwh6e wrote

I too am from the Midwest. Indiana to be exact, and don't get me wrong, I love western mass and am only joking around

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Smoaktreess t1_iugzw3g wrote

Was gonna say,, western mass is an upgrade from anywhere in Indiana lmaoooo

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