single working mom, needing help

Submitted by Majestic_Corner_1131 t3_xtygrg in massachusetts

I need help, if anyone knows something I alrdy don’t ,I hate asking for help, but I would truly appreciate any prayers, even.

I’ve been on waitlists for affordable housing for years, For section 8, affordable housing complexes I have 2 toddlers, filed child support half a yr ago still no court date, no financial support, no support caring for kids.
I work full time, one of my kids is still a.l baby and Im proud of myself for even getting this far Ans getting a job and leaving my ex who did nothing and still does nothing. I get paid 16/hr & I drop my kids off at daycare, work 8 hours, go home and take care of them on repeat, the weekends are catching up with stuff.

I have made progress just started working after having no daycare snd now I’m trying to figure out my next issue.

I’m exhausted, I can’t find housing, my current situation, I’ve been looking for months with nothing, I spent so much time, hours; going to places in person, to not get the place, or too expensive, or whatever the issue is. I can make around 1800 a month with my job but I call out more than I’d like to admit bc me/my kids get sick a lot, probably bc the currrnt environment I live in, (I live with ppl who smoke inside their house, have cats that aren’t taken care of, there’s staring to be a mold problem, they don’t let me cook; or really make any noise; I never go there except to sleep, and it’s getting to cold to do stuff outside now. I need to leave this environment bc it is detoriating my mental and physical health, we all share a room Ans never go in any other parts of the house. And we get yelled at anytime my kids make any noise, and yelled at to move out alrdy everyday. It’s really shameful and embarrassing .

I’ve considering moving out of state but I can’t just pick up by myself rn with no job set up or housing .

I’m waiting for maybe affordable housing waitlist to accept me; my tax refund; anything, snd I need somewhere to go in the meantime. I don’t feel safe in shelters, for me or my kids, I have a bad immune system bc the home environment and I get sick a lot already, i just work constantly snd I get no breaks from anything ; I have health issues I’m struggling to find time to fix, I have ptsd and I can’t live with strangers bc it will trigger mental illness that will make me unfunctional. Idk if anyone knows any cheap places that would rent to me, or possibly help out so I could even rent a hotel/Airbnb for a few weeks/months till something else happens or I get my Tax refund. I hate asking for help, Bur I always pay it forward when I can, if anyone wants to help me out I would truly appreciate it, in return I could offer someone for you to talk to, or I could make you something or write you something . I am just tired snd I have gone through so many resources and trying so hard for nothing to happen except being stuck where I am . A hotel or Airbnb while I waiting for either: land a higher paying job and finally get child support, affordable housing, or move somewhere more affordable, Thanks for reading

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IIRizzII t1_iqstwct wrote

If you call the DTA office they can help you fill out an application over the phone for food stamps and possibly cash assistance. Ever since covid the income threshold went up and it’s easier to get accepted. If you’re eligible for food stamps you’d be able to put the cash you’d normally spend on food in savings to help you move.

I’m not sure what area you live in but there’s places that have advocates that can help you with resources and helping you with different programs. - I think DTA would have access to these locations if you ask.

Sending you thoughts and prayers. Don’t worry things will look up soon enough!

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Majestic_Corner_1131 OP t1_iqsv84c wrote

I make too much money to receive cash assistance and I do have some food stamps already

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BombShady12 t1_irgs95s wrote

Wonder why people downvote you. This is the problem with the system. They reward generational losers who have kids to milk the system and never work a day in their life. People who at least go to work and still don’t make enough should get the lions share while the 3/4th generation on welfare should get tents, gas heaters and powdered milk.

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Majestic_Corner_1131 OP t1_irgzei2 wrote

What? I work 40 hours a week then take care of my kids. I didn’t plan on their dad leaving us

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BombShady12 t1_irh985s wrote

I guess you interpreted my post incorrectly. I’m on your side. It’s the working poor that should get the lion’s share of welfare benefits. You have people having kids as a way of life so they can mooch off the system for the rest of their lives. They really need to do something about it.

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sf20112 t1_iqt8stv wrote

I have been sleeping in a car for 3 years homeless. With a full time 40 hour week job and a good credit score. I have been searching for rooms for 2 years straight and have been unsuccessful at every attempt. I have looked for rooms all the way from Newburyport to Quincy and anywhere in between. I understand your frustration however I do not believe there are any answers to it.

As a personal rule I do not stay in shelters or hotels. Various reasons.

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BombShady12 t1_irgsfgr wrote

Shit sorry to hear that. You can’t even get a studio apartment? What kind of work are you doing?

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sf20112 t1_iri2o2g wrote

I make 18.50 an hour. Not enough to pay for those and they want 3x the rent in income anyway.

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Molly_Malone_613 t1_iqt7k7y wrote

WIC is available until age 3- are you on it?

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Majestic_Corner_1131 OP t1_iqt9016 wrote

I’m not but my kids daycare providers breakfast lunch and two snacks so all I need to provide for them during the week is dinner and snacks and food on the weekends and I do you already receive food stamps that pays for that so I’m good w. Food

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rayray781 t1_ir07nsn wrote

I know a shelter isn’t ideal but if you’re homeless and go into a shelter, you are moved up on the list and should get something much quicker. I think the Section 8 waiting list is like 8-10 years at this point. It’s a disgrace.

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fluffandnutellaagain t1_iqtz1ql wrote

Do you know anyone else personally that is also struggling? Could you go in on something together? What is your housing budget after accounting for all other bills/expenses?

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modsRfaqqots t1_iqv32n1 wrote

sounds like you need to make better choices

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Majestic_Corner_1131 OP t1_ir7b4ct wrote

What . I have a job I work ful Time and raise my kids alone I have no life .&’ doin g the best I can

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BombShady12 t1_irgslud wrote

At least they are working. I have rentals with losers that are, I shit you not, 4th generation on the dole.

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specialcranberries t1_iskbwa8 wrote

I don’t have any this bad but I sure have some that are permanently on housing and haven’t worked in years. They don’t even incentive it because they will lose their housing. Then there are people like this why can’t get assistance even though they are working. It’s frustrating. If anything it should be temporary. There isn’t enough to go around. People shouldn’t be allowed to squat on it just because their number finally got called while others are struggling like this.

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