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ItalianMama95 OP t1_j2jt2r3 wrote

Reply to comment by dorkydancer in Homeless with a 3 year old by ItalianMama95

Ive stated that I cannot just keep my child in the UK. My sons father was abusive and narcissistic. He has a lot of family in the US and contacts to the police and fire. He will definitely pursue kidnapping charges if I don’t bring my son back. No offense but you don’t know the person I’m dealing with or every detail about my situation. You say about scammy people trying to get money from people, I have had people reaching out to me offering to help me with money, clothes and general items for my child. I have said no, I’m not asking for money and my child is not in need of anything right now. I am simply asking for ideas to keep an active 3 year old entertained while living in a car while I pursue help with shelters because the chances of me getting a bed right away are very slim. Please do not make comments when you know nothing of the situation besides a few sentences. It can be very triggering for someone especially like myself when I’ve reached out to people before and they never want to help. I find it very hard to ask for help because everyone always wants my help but never want to help me. I don’t get as much help from the government because I am not a us citizen. So please be more thoughtful and kind with your words. Thank you and happy new year.

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LackingUtility t1_j2jtuuo wrote

I don’t know about your situation, but I am a Massachusetts lawyer. Everything you’ve said suggests that you’re wrong about the possibility of kidnapping charges, but that you will be putting your child in danger and likely lose custody if you do come to Massachusetts and live in your car.

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SpindriftRascal t1_j2jvhz1 wrote

On the given facts, OP is not wrong about the possibility of a kidnapping charge. See 18 USC 1204.

Of course, we have no way of predicting whether the father would file a complaint, or whether it would actually lead to an IPK charge, but it’s certainly possible. OP’s mention of kidnapping suggests to me that it has come up as a topic and she is wise to aware of the possibility.

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LackingUtility t1_j2jvvm9 wrote

Staying in the UK where the child is not homeless would likely not be considered intent to deprive the father of parental rights though. OP would also have a necessity defense.

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SpindriftRascal t1_j2jwepj wrote

Sure, I’d make that argument. But she doesn’t want to be in position to have to argue that, does she? I’m not opining on what she should do. I’m just pointing out that an IPK charge is certainly possible in this situation.

Edit: correcting omission of the word “in.”

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LackingUtility t1_j2k1bt7 wrote

She may…. We don’t have all the facts, hence why OP should talk to a lawyer.

But OP has ignored that advice every time it’s been given. I wonder if the kid wouldn’t be better off with the father.

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ItalianMama95 OP t1_j2jzoz6 wrote

Yes it has definitely come up in topic before hence why I am so cautious about it. Yes I know it is a real possibility as I have looked into. I have pleaded and begged his father to let me stay here or to take his son full time and he refuses. It’s all part of his control over me still from the abusive relationship.

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Any_Strawberry5747 t1_j2kdvbi wrote

Could this lawyer be any help? This lawyer is right that she is wrong about the possibility of kidnapping charges. The charges will go toward to the father for putting child in danger by putting you both without a roof to live on plus he has to pay child support so there is money which will get you place to stay.

The court system is more interested in seeing the mother and child have shelter than seeing them live in the car.

It sounded more of the father threatening which could get the father in trouble.

I d pray that the mother and the child will have shelter than seeing them living in the car.

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