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fadetoblack237 t1_j6bb6ph wrote

Reply to comment by tobiasrfunke in Holyoke mall shooting by runninginsquare_s

I was at one at the South Shore Plaza a year ago almost to the day of this one. Therapy helped me a lot if they are still having trouble in a couple of weeks it's worth talking to someone. It took me months before I could go back to the mall.

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tobiasrfunke t1_j6bboub wrote

Appreciate the thoughts We're planning on setting that up; I know it will take them time to work through it.

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Roberto-Del-Camino t1_j6f26ji wrote

I suppose you can’t treat them yourself even though you’re a psychologist.

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climb-high t1_j6f2v3c wrote

Did you do traditional talk therapy or something more structured like CBT exposure? Glad you’re doing well!

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fadetoblack237 t1_j6f6vwj wrote

I did talk therapy for about six months after the incident and I suppose some CBT despite my therapist not really calling it that. We talked a lot about how unlikely it was to happen again. Plus extensive dissection of my feelings on it and at like month two she encouraged me to go to the mall again. Instead of SSP I went to Natick. For the next few months I was going once a week and we talked about how it made me feel. At first I could only be there for 10 - 15 minutes but by the time I stopped going, I was fine spending the day there. I still won't go back to SSP because apparently shit happens there a lot and the memories are still to fresh but I can go to pretty much any other mall no problem now otherwise. I'm still a bit jumpy when there is shouting in stores or big bangs but overall I'm pretty much back to normal.

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