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BiffNasty1234 t1_j4szr9u wrote

Reply to comment by Unique-Public-8594 in Brian Walshe, husband of Ana Walshe, charged with murder following wife’s disappearance by tiny-starship

Kids are incredibly resilient. They’re also provided room to speak their truth, something many adults feel embarrassed to do or flat out can’t allow themselves to do

For a child to say “I’m not ok” it’s usually met with a positive, encouraging reaction.

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CausticOptimist t1_j4t9820 wrote

> Kids are incredibly resilient.

Where do all these fucked up adults come from then?

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BiffNasty1234 t1_j4t9m98 wrote

Many many many different walks of life. I’m not sure why you think bad eggs as adults are only that way because a parent was murdered….

8 billion people in this world, how many of them have never experienced a devastating event early in life?

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CausticOptimist t1_j4tas0a wrote

I don’t know what a “bad egg” is supposed to be, but children experience all kinds of trauma and that trauma impacts them throughout their lives in a myriad of ways.

Thinking children just bounce back from trauma and then become damaged later in life completely unrelated is ridiculous.

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BiffNasty1234 t1_j4tax78 wrote

You’re being obtuse. Of course you know what it means. All set with this conversation

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MonsieurReynard t1_j4t2ivg wrote

That's an oddly Panglossian take to be said about kids losing a parent at the hands of the other parent, or childhood trauma in general. "Speaking your truth" to a "positive reaction" won't bring back your murdered mother, or erase primal trauma.

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BiffNasty1234 t1_j4t8zur wrote

Tell me where I said it would…

Edit: cool. Just fucking downvote.

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Unique-Public-8594 t1_j4t03kn wrote

You don’t think this family history would be a difficult thing to carry through life?

You don’t think they will suffer from this loss?

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legumious t1_j4unhiw wrote

Life: Sucks

Someone: Hopeful platitude

Reddit: Yeah, that's something I can argue about. For the children.

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[deleted] t1_j4uolof wrote

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legumious t1_j4urfk9 wrote

In the face of tragedy, you can't let someone morally and ethically aligned with you go unreprimanded because you perceive them as demeaning. The comment did not imply the kids would turn out okay. It implied they would survive.

But you don't get a hit of that sweet moral outrage by agreeing with people.

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Unique-Public-8594 t1_j4uxdhs wrote

Is it “moral outrage” though?

One can be struck by the profound and tragic long term impact of what has happened and,

it might just be empathy.

Not moral outrage, not instigating a debate, not virtue signaling and not looking for karma, just sincere sorrow.

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legumious t1_j4v0ur8 wrote

Your question was "you don’t think they will suffer from this loss?" in response to someone reflecting on how some kids survive suffering. Your empathy feels toxic, and your question feels in bad faith.

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Linux-Is-Best t1_j4wxl0j wrote

Hi

A friendly reminder, that it is OK to disagree. It's OK to have a difference of opinion.

Let's not make this into something personal... It's also OK to walk away.

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Robw1970 t1_j4ykudy wrote

Honestly, you have a very valid point but it is almost impossible to reason with emotion. If one doesn't stay on the road of the majority you will surely be notified.

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BlaineTog t1_j4th6wy wrote

Kids can survive a lot, but they carry the scars with them all their lives.

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[deleted] t1_j4v0hbg wrote

Absolutely came to say this!

Kids who look like they're doing great, chances are, it's an act or they are overcompensating and avoiding dealing with stuff.

My sister's an overachiever for the wrong reasons. She's miserable.

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SheeEttin t1_j4uo4r7 wrote

>For a child to say “I’m not ok” it’s usually met with a positive, encouraging reaction.

Damn I wish the rest of us lived in your world, because I know very few people like that.

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