grillmoretacomeats t1_jadg60c wrote on February 28, 2023 at 5:21 PM

Reply to comment by Televisi0n_Man in You've got a problem! by Ok_Cut1802

Hey I talked to a friend about the AA program and he told me that the people there don't believe in stopping addiction without the program. He told me they believe you are going to start using again its only when, and that the program is the only way to really recover. Anyone else seen this response? He and I quit smoking for a year for him and 6 months for me. He also told me that when you fall off the program once its like becoming an outcast in the group. Im sure it helps people but he made it sound more like a click and it's ment to get good with God first then overcome your demons.

willsmithsrightpalm t1_jadl62r wrote on February 28, 2023 at 5:52 PM

My cousin had his license revoked for 5 years for a DUI and went to AA for drinking. He says the same shit. But he also thinks he's gonna get rich on metaverse land, believes all sorts of whacky conspiracies, is too good to ride a moped, chain smoke cigs and weed all day, hemorrhages my demented grandma's funds for his cigs and redbull, and literally lives in my grandma's basement for free. He's 31 btw.

He's only relapsed with alcohol once in the past couple years since his DUI that I'm aware of tho. So yeah putting it all in god's hands works! /s

I think what keeps him from drinking is actually fear of the even more terrible human he becomes, fears of getting arrested again, and/or fears of getting his ass kicked because he pissed someone off at a bar again.

grillmoretacomeats t1_jadneic wrote on February 28, 2023 at 6:06 PM

That sounds like elderly abuse. She shouldn't have to support anyone. I'm sorry about your grandmother.

willsmithsrightpalm t1_jadomwp wrote on February 28, 2023 at 6:14 PM

Thanks. It definitely borders (probably crosses the line at times) on abuse but she has caretakers who know about his problems and my parents live next door. The caretakers tell my mom everything so my mom and dad have to put him in his place every now and then.

He is an only child and sees me as the closest thing he has to a brother, so he lets his guard down and tells me everything. When he told me he was smoking/dealing weed with one of the caretakers I told my mom and got her ass fired immediately. If they're cool with him there's a chance they cover for him at the expense of my grandma's mental state, and if I have any control of the situation I will absolutely take action.

Kinda shady of me to act like I'm on his side to gather intel but it's in the best interest of my grandma. She is well looked after.

Sensual_Pudding t1_jadpspz wrote on February 28, 2023 at 6:22 PM

I would think that has a lot to do with your local chapter. My BiL runs a meeting here, and I don’t get that vibe at all.